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Transforming Toxic Thoughts - How Does It Work?

....Unser Gehirn - wohl das Sensationellste, was wir anzubieten haben !! Wie funktioniert es ?..Our brain - probably the most sensational thing we have to offer! How does it work ?....

Our brain - probably the most sensational thing we have to offer! How does it work ?

Hope you have been able to check out the previous blogs on the subject. If not, here you are:

TOX1 (Introduction)   TOX2   (Stress)   TOX3 (Brain)

One often hears the explanation that this predisposition already exists in my family. The good news: we are not a puppet of biology! Even when we are full of toxic memories and live in such an environment, our brain can actually be changed. An incredible feat that has been dubbed 'neuroplasticity'.

They say we can change our toxic thoughts in 4 days and replace them with new ones in 3 weeks!

Thoughts can be measured, they need space, they change, grow, enlarge or shrink, and they adapt. The result is that you are represented by your thoughts! Toxic thoughts make us toxic too. Good thoughts have positive effects.

Positive and negative thoughts go through the same processes in the brain. Only the chemical substances change their structure accordingly.

....Wer gelernt hat, das Gute zu sehen und sich dafür zu entscheiden, wird bis ins hohe Alter davon profitieren können...Anyone who has learned to see the good and to choose it will be able to benefit from it well into old age.....

Anyone who has learned to see the good and to choose it will be able to benefit from it well into old age.

If we want to detoxify our thought life, then we have to send a toxic thought through a set sequence again.

What does this order look like?

1. The brain collects electrical impulses

These impulses are collected through our five senses in order to find out their meaning. At the beginning of a thought it is possible to decide between good and bad impulses. Do I accept the thought or do I reject it!

First, a thought reaches the thalamus (transmitter control center), where most of the cerebral nerves meet. It connects the brain to the body and the body to the brain.

The thought goes from the thalamus to the cerebral cortex (outer part), where it is connected with already existing thoughts. This activates our inner attitude towards thoughts. This will influence our decision. If the memory is positive, then pleasant feelings are produced.

This process is recognized by the thalamus and then passed on to the hypothalamus, the chemical plant. If it is a negative thought, then the appropriate chemicals are now being prepared. The hypothalamus is considered to be the 'brain' of the endocrine system. He controls, among other things. our thirst, hunger, body temperature and our reaction to feelings. On a worry-laden attitude, stress hormones are sent to the main gland (pituitary gland), which warns the trillion cells in our body of a threat. The body adjusts to protection. This inhibits important further developing thoughts. But once we have made the habit of not worrying, the hypothalamus will produce feelings of peace.

....Was immer man über die Funktionalität unseres Gehirns sagt, es ist immer eine Vereinfachung. Es ist hochgradig komplex und immer voller Überraschungen...Whatever you say about the functionality of our brain, it is always a simplification. It is …

Whatever you say about the functionality of our brain, it is always a simplification. It is extremely complex and always full of surprises.

What can we do at this stage?

We can choose to reject or allow the current thoughts and incoming information. In the latter case, they will sink into our mind and subconscious and form the basis of who we are as a person.

The amygdala (our joy and fear center) and the hippocampus (responsible for memory and motivation) help us make good decisions. The amygdala is the driver that wants to protect us from threats. The thalamus will warn you if necessary. In the end she gives the OK or NOK.

The amygdala also has connections to the frontal lobe, which controls our reasoning and decisions, and our analyzing and planning. This gives our developed reason the chance to have a say.

At this moment there is an opportunity to say:

"I choose NOT to think about this thing anymore."

This sends the thoughts away, or they simply disappear.

....Vielleicht neigen wir zu denken, dass viele Wege zum Glücklichsein führen. Es gibt sicher solche, die schneller und kürzer sind, dafür intensiver !..Perhaps we tend to think that there are many ways to be happy. There are certainly some that are…

Perhaps we tend to think that there are many ways to be happy. There are certainly some that are faster and shorter, but more intense!

But if we don't stop thinking about it - be it positive or negative thoughts - then all information flows to the seahorse, the hippocampus. This calculates the incoming thoughts: Are they of short or long-term importance? The latter are then often processed during sleep. Such information then reaches the long-term memory, where it is stored as matter.

2. Reflecting on thoughts

Thanks to neuroscience, we now know that we don't have to allow any thought to control us!

The information remains in the hippocampus for about 24-48 hours and is continuously processed there. The basal forebrain is also included. Change now means that the thought is either retained, reinforced, or parts or the whole thought are adapted. It is NOT possible for parts to sink back into the subconscious without having been changed. This shows our potential, but also our responsibility.

The stronger we think, the more change we can bring about.

When we say: 'I can't do that!' then that supports our inability.

When we say: "I can do that!" then the whole body aligns itself with it.

....Wir können viel mehr als wir meinen. Wo ein Wille, da ist ein Weg. Erstaunlich, oder ?..We can do a lot more than we think. Where there is a will, there is a way. Amazing, isn't it?....

We can do a lot more than we think. Where there is a will, there is a way. Amazing, isn't it?

Neuroplasticity means that through our thinking, important neurotransmitters (chemical messenger substances that transmit electrical impulses) - especially serotonin - cause changes deep inside the cell and thus also the genes (epigenetics says hello).

Research shows that mental training in terms of imagination, visualization, deep thinking and reflection, triggers the same physical change in the brain as if one had actually carried out these imagined processes in practice.

The resulting thoughts are consolidated, stabilized and accessible at any time. Nothing stands in the way of a high level of competence. This can apply in both the positive and negative directions with corresponding consequences.

Repetition and training are necessary in order for protein synthesis to consolidate, stabilize and participate in us.

....Es gibt doch tatsächlich Menschen, die gerne trainieren. Setzen sie sich etwas in den Kopf, erreichen sie es auch ! Wie läuft das bei Ihnen ?..There are actually people who like to exercise. Put something in your head and achieve it! How are you…

There are actually people who like to exercise. Put something in your head and achieve it! How are you doing?

3. Write down thoughts

As you have probably already experienced yourself, the process of writing down consolidates memory and clarity and helps you think about it further. The visualization of thoughts and feelings promotes these processes.

The basal ganglia - nerve associations that correlate with the cerebral cortex, the hippocampus, and the frontal lobe - have the important task of transforming thoughts and emotions into immediate action in thinking and LEARNING. So they help us write down the information we just understood.

The way we write them down is important.

Everyone is encouraged to create a thought journal with creative expression. Creative can mean: drawing free of straight lines, pictures or diagrams, allowing colors and structures to flow in. Create a MINDMAP, so to speak, where associative thoughts can be linked.

....Ein Mindmap erstellen macht Freude und hilft, Transparenz zu erreichen. Es wird damit leichter sein herauszufinden, wo der Hund begraben liegt...Creating a mind map is fun and helps to achieve transparency. This will make it easier to find out w…

Creating a mind map is fun and helps to achieve transparency. This will make it easier to find out where the dog is buried.

The left hemisphere is specialized in getting from the detail to the long shot, whereas the right hemisphere leads to the detail via the overall picture. Interesting.

4. Rethink thoughts

Thoughts can be transformed more easily the more consciously they are perceived.

Every time we ponder a thought and we control it with our minds, we can influence it as well. So it is in our power of free will whether we want to create new circuits and initiate a detoxification process.

What we think and feel about ourselves, what about our partner, our parents, friends and neighbors can all be examined and redefined.

We usually cannot control our circumstances, but we can determine how we react to them.

5. Implement thoughts

This last step quickly shows whether the previous steps were carried out correctly. This is because the practical steps are carried out according to the thought. Application steps. With these steps we have built a secure foundation for change, health and quality of life.

This overcoming step helps to recognize whether something is true or not. It shows whether theory and practice match. In doing so, it promotes integrity and makes us strong.

....Diese Lady freut sich scheinbar darauf, etwas Neues zu lernen, zu üben und es in die Praxis umzusetzen. Lassen wir uns doch anstecken !!..This lady is apparently looking forward to learning something new, practicing it and putting it into practi…

This lady is apparently looking forward to learning something new, practicing it and putting it into practice. Let's get infected!

he epigenetics shows, our perception shapes our biology. Our thoughts are powerful, they shape us. As Solomon said, as we think, so are we (Proverbs 23: 7).

3 activities that promote the healing process

Time of silence:

Studies show that people who pray and read the Bible every day are more likely to have positive thoughts. Spending time in nature also encourages good thoughts.

Nutrition:

Nutrients like omega-3 fatty acids, fiber and B vitamins lift our mood. They stabilize the blood sugar level and improve the functioning of neurotransmitters and nerves. Since the brain consists of up to 85% water, it consumes accordingly, which invites us to 'refill'. (at least 1.5 liters of water / day)

Move:

Physical exercise releases beta-endorphins, which create a sense of well-being in us and dispel tension and stress. It trains the will and promotes blood circulation with all the resulting benefits.

In summary

t can be said that the amygdala gives input and informs the mind (frontal lobe) about the emotions (roughly in a ratio of 9: 1, ie 9 times more often than it receives information from the frontal lobe). The thalamus and hypothalamus provide input regarding motivation. The memory networks provide information about memories that have already been stored. The central switching point mixes and combines everything. The heart also gets involved and supports the decision-making processes.

Theological Aspects

If the Bible says:

  • We are to put all our worries on Jesus (1 Pet 5: 7)

  • We are to control every thought (2 Cor. 10: 5)

  • We are to renew our senses (Rom 12: 2)

  • We should always be happy (Phil 4: 4)

  • We are to use the weapons of God, because with them all fortresses of the opponent can be overcome (2 Cor 10: 4-5)

  • We should look to HIM so that HIM influences our thoughts (2 Cor 3:18)

then it looks like that our Creator knows exactly how important all this is and that, as soon as we follow it, we live in a 'different', better world. Isn't that sensational!

And what I particularly like is that HE does not leave us alone in our endeavors, but supports us in a highly active manner, the more we get involved with HIM.

He would like to be our 'fixed star' who shows us the direction in every situation in life.

Faith, as defined in Hebrews 11:1, takes on a new depth when one knows that just thinking deeply about an action can equal the actual action. The same parts of the brain are addressed.

....Es ist ganz die Idee des christlichen Glaubens, dass wir dadurch lernen, Meister der Umstände zu werden und damit unsere Lebensqualität hoch ist. Wenn wir schon das Angebot haben, dass unser Schöpfer uns im Alltag helfen und uns glücklich sehen …

It is entirely the idea of the Christian faith that through this we learn to become masters of circumstances and so that our quality of life is high. If we already have the offer that our Creator wants to help us in everyday life and wants to see us happy and also provides everything we need, then__

__We can literally tear down toxic thought structures by deciding to make ourselves fully aware of the thought, to change it through repentance and forgiveness (protein synthesis) and to replace it with correct information according to Phil 4:8 or similar principles!

There are no harmless thoughts. Therefore we must be good stewards of our thoughts and emotions!

This is followed by two blogs where we will deal with the 10 typically toxic topics that challenge us every day.

PS. Reference book: Bible and "Who turned my brain off" by Dr. Caroline Leaf

Unconditional Love in Marriage

....Wer sich für diese Art der Liebe in einer Beziehung öffnet, der wird Wunder erleben !..Anyone who opens up to this type of love in a relationship will experience miracles!....

Anyone who opens up to this type of love in a relationship will experience miracles!

I hope you were able to take a look at the two previous blogs on this topic:

CONDITIONAL LOVE - GOOD OR BAD ?

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE - THE BEST OF THE BEST

Let me repeat briefly:

There are always reasons in a marriage to put the blame on the partner when there is a conflict. we're world champions in that, aren't we? As soon as you overlook it and look for the solution instead of depressing your partner, then you are on the right track.

We have also found out that there can be conditional and unconditional love in any type of relationship. If these components are positively aligned, the relationship can benefit significantly.

Unconditional love is love for love's sake.

She survives all challenges and all disappointments.

  • Unconditional love does not expect the other to do something concrete or to return love.

  • It shows itself in loyalty and understanding, even if the other has made a mistake.

  • It shows in caring and empathic action, e.g. when the other is sick or weak.

  • Unconditional love is a goal in a two-person relationship and leads to charity.

  • Ultimately, completely unconditional love can only be found in God's source of love.

We find this love nowadays especially in young mothers who treat their babies in this way. If we could transfer that to the adult level, the world would look different.

....Wir Männer können da nicht mithalten ! Aber wir können uns von dieser Mutterliebe inspirieren lassen...In this we men can't quite keep up with the ladies! But we can be inspired by this motherly love.....

In this we men can't quite keep up with the ladies! But we can be inspired by this motherly love.

Where else can we find unconditional love?

All people who have access to the Christian faith can recognize and experience this love there. The fact that a Creator God cares for us from infinitely far away, in which he tries to save us from our lousy situation, even allows himself to be ridiculed and finally tormented and dies without having placed a condition on us, then shows this potential for love, which cannot be found anywhere else, in any other religion. Unique, sensational.

....Dem Schöpfergott in Seiner geschaffenen Natur zu begegnen ist für viele Gläubige ein spezielles Erlebnis...To meet the Creator God in His created nature is a special experience for many believers.....

To meet the Creator God in His created nature is a special experience for many believers.

Whoever opens up to this thought has access to unconditional love, which can then be reflected in his own life. It penetrates our heart and can change it in a positive way. If you want to try this out, you can read the last chapters of the four Gospels under prayer. There you meet the love climax, the love source.

Whoever understands God's love can get along well with everyone because he can see it through 'God's eye'. Even loving one's enemies is then possible.

In relationships

We will stop re-educating our partner. Even if we think it is for the benefit of the partner. We concentrate on accepting it a priori as it is, including the weaknesses. We are happy about our partner because he is our friend who has chosen me as a person. We are a team and we will not let anyone destroy this cooperation. Not even by myself. This eliminates many unnecessary fears, which promotes love motivation, which leads to positive changes and reduces weaknesses.

He who loves his wife loves himself (Eph 5:28)

This verse got under my skin. Could it be that if I react nervously and awkwardly to my wife that I actually have a problem with myself?

I wanted to test this out. And every time I was impatient with Terri, I had to admit that I was actually not at peace with myself. Give it a try!

Every time I stopped nagging and went inside to find out and clear up the dissonance.

....Ein Paar, das durch dick und dünn zusammenhält, ist unschlagbar. Ein solches Team wird gebildet durch gemeinsame Siege und Niederlagen auf der Basis von bedingungsloser Liebe...A pair that sticks together through thick and thin is unbeatable. Su…

A pair that sticks together through thick and thin is unbeatable. Such a team is formed by mutual victories and defeats on the basis of unconditional love.

Without pride and selfishness, most problems could be solved in 5 minutes!

This sentence has it all. He wants to show that we often move far away from selflessness and humility. Our society promotes pride and individuality so much that we too are tempted to do so. But with that we build social walls.

Suggestion: With the next problem, try to deal analytically with what YOUR own pride or selfishness could be. If you recognize him, then it is also easy to recognize him in your partner. Often it is even easier to spot the mistakes in the partner. You tend to be 'blind' to yourself.

Knowing yourself is the best way to get better

Where there is pride, there are problems. Those who can grasp their ego have great advantages in improving their emotional intelligence, let's say their social skills. Nothing stands in the way of quality relationships. This applies to all social levels, including the professional level.

....Stolz ist gesellschaftlich anerkannt und trainiert. Er hat uns viele Kriege gebracht. Er macht uns blind und verschliesst uns gegenüber den Bedürfnissen anderer. Nichts gegen Freude an Leistung und Qualität. Aber Hochmut kommt vor dem Fall. Die …

Pride is socially recognized and trained. He brought us many wars. He blinds us and closes us off to the needs of others. Nothing against the joy of performance and quality. But pride comes before the fall. Humility builds up and leads to peace.

Unconditional love in a two-person relationship

It is important to make a conscious start. Even if only one partner starts doing it, there is a profit. Sure, there is a risk of exploitation and injury. But only if you can be exploited and injured. Those who are at peace with themselves, who have accepted themselves completely, also lose this fear. Unconditional love is not an unconditional surrender! On the contrary. She lets herself be extremely valuable. An added value with high self-worth.

....Ehepaare können einander so richtig aufbauen, helfen, fördern, Selbstwert vermitteln, durch Herausforderungen gehen oder getragen werden. Das bildet Beziehungsqualität...Married couples can really build each other up, help, promote, convey self-…

Married couples can really build each other up, help, promote, convey self-worth, go through challenges or be carried. That forms the quality of the relationship.

The speed of maturation increases the stronger the will of both partners. Couples can switch from unhappy to happy in just one month. But then you have to be able to let go, forgive the old injuries and be ready for a new beginning. It's quick to write, but corresponds to deeper inner struggles and victories over yourself. Anyone who needs help can knock on Jesus at any time, who has promised to help. Because God is love, and whoever is in love is in God and God is in him!

Characteristics for unconditional love are:

Concerning yourself:

  • Recognize your own strengths and weaknesses

  • See and express the good in critical moments

  • Replace 'love substitute gratifications' with goal-oriented action

  • Delight in truth, authenticity and integrity

  • Instead of manipulation, live respect, also towards yourself

  • Decision on the path of maturation

  • Patience brings you further, encourages listening to yourself and others

  • It's not the feelings that count, it's the decision

  • Become master of circumstances - be disaster-independent

....Am Anfang jeder bewussten Veränderung ist die Entscheidung: "Ja, ich will diesen Weg gehen." Bleibt diese Motivation erhalten, dann steht nichts im Wege, was nicht gemeistert werden kann...At the beginning of every conscious change is the decisi…

At the beginning of every conscious change is the decision: "Yes, I want to go this way." If this motivation remains, then nothing stands in the way that cannot be mastered.

Regarding relationship:

  • Modesty, loyalty, reliability

  • Trust without control

  • miss each other without jealousy

  • Interest in time together

  • Interest in truth and authenticity

  • find each other without getting lost

  • live respect instead of manipulation

  • Security without loss of freedom

  • Say "sorry" and mean it

  • Accept and give help

  • Interest in the partner's well-being, promotion

  • Pray for one another, educate one another, read together

....Jeder Tag gibt uns die Möglichkeit, dem Partner zu zeigen, dass wir ein Team sind, zusammenhalten, Probleme gemeinsam angehen, füreinander denken und fühlen, einander unterstützen und einander gern haben. Welch eine Chance !..Every day gives us …

Every day gives us the opportunity to show the partner that we are a team, stick together, tackle problems together, think and feel for one another, support one another and like one another. What a chance!

  • Regarding the environment:

  • Respect for all living things

  • Respect for the rights of others and their property

  • Patiently addressing obvious problems of social need

  • Gratitude, honesty, kindness in everything you do

  • Quality awareness - quality wins

....Viele Menschen wissen nicht, wie schlecht es um sie steht. Sie brauchen Hilfe, vielleicht gerade von IHNEN, um aufgeklärt zu werden, was bedingungslose Liebe eigentlich ist, dass da viel mehr Lebenswert vorhanden ist, als sie angenommen haben. D…

Many people don't know how bad things are for them. They need help, maybe from YOU, to be cleared up what unconditional love actually is, that there is much more value in life than they assumed. Because everyone is looking for love. Everyone needs them urgently.

Living love results in a highly qualified life, living together and suffering; it helps to feel the wishes, longings and needs of the other as one's own and not to lose oneself in them.

May many people benefit and choose from this love and be blessed by it.

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