Anyone who opens up to this type of love in a relationship will experience miracles!
I hope you were able to take a look at the two previous blogs on this topic:
CONDITIONAL LOVE - GOOD OR BAD ?
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE - THE BEST OF THE BEST
Let me repeat briefly:
There are always reasons in a marriage to put the blame on the partner when there is a conflict. we're world champions in that, aren't we? As soon as you overlook it and look for the solution instead of depressing your partner, then you are on the right track.
We have also found out that there can be conditional and unconditional love in any type of relationship. If these components are positively aligned, the relationship can benefit significantly.
Unconditional love is love for love's sake.
She survives all challenges and all disappointments.
Unconditional love does not expect the other to do something concrete or to return love.
It shows itself in loyalty and understanding, even if the other has made a mistake.
It shows in caring and empathic action, e.g. when the other is sick or weak.
Unconditional love is a goal in a two-person relationship and leads to charity.
Ultimately, completely unconditional love can only be found in God's source of love.
We find this love nowadays especially in young mothers who treat their babies in this way. If we could transfer that to the adult level, the world would look different.
In this we men can't quite keep up with the ladies! But we can be inspired by this motherly love.
Where else can we find unconditional love?
All people who have access to the Christian faith can recognize and experience this love there. The fact that a Creator God cares for us from infinitely far away, in which he tries to save us from our lousy situation, even allows himself to be ridiculed and finally tormented and dies without having placed a condition on us, then shows this potential for love, which cannot be found anywhere else, in any other religion. Unique, sensational.
To meet the Creator God in His created nature is a special experience for many believers.
Whoever opens up to this thought has access to unconditional love, which can then be reflected in his own life. It penetrates our heart and can change it in a positive way. If you want to try this out, you can read the last chapters of the four Gospels under prayer. There you meet the love climax, the love source.
Whoever understands God's love can get along well with everyone because he can see it through 'God's eye'. Even loving one's enemies is then possible.
In relationships
We will stop re-educating our partner. Even if we think it is for the benefit of the partner. We concentrate on accepting it a priori as it is, including the weaknesses. We are happy about our partner because he is our friend who has chosen me as a person. We are a team and we will not let anyone destroy this cooperation. Not even by myself. This eliminates many unnecessary fears, which promotes love motivation, which leads to positive changes and reduces weaknesses.
He who loves his wife loves himself (Eph 5:28)
This verse got under my skin. Could it be that if I react nervously and awkwardly to my wife that I actually have a problem with myself?
I wanted to test this out. And every time I was impatient with Terri, I had to admit that I was actually not at peace with myself. Give it a try!
Every time I stopped nagging and went inside to find out and clear up the dissonance.
A pair that sticks together through thick and thin is unbeatable. Such a team is formed by mutual victories and defeats on the basis of unconditional love.
Without pride and selfishness, most problems could be solved in 5 minutes!
This sentence has it all. He wants to show that we often move far away from selflessness and humility. Our society promotes pride and individuality so much that we too are tempted to do so. But with that we build social walls.
Suggestion: With the next problem, try to deal analytically with what YOUR own pride or selfishness could be. If you recognize him, then it is also easy to recognize him in your partner. Often it is even easier to spot the mistakes in the partner. You tend to be 'blind' to yourself.
Knowing yourself is the best way to get better
Where there is pride, there are problems. Those who can grasp their ego have great advantages in improving their emotional intelligence, let's say their social skills. Nothing stands in the way of quality relationships. This applies to all social levels, including the professional level.
Pride is socially recognized and trained. He brought us many wars. He blinds us and closes us off to the needs of others. Nothing against the joy of performance and quality. But pride comes before the fall. Humility builds up and leads to peace.
Unconditional love in a two-person relationship
It is important to make a conscious start. Even if only one partner starts doing it, there is a profit. Sure, there is a risk of exploitation and injury. But only if you can be exploited and injured. Those who are at peace with themselves, who have accepted themselves completely, also lose this fear. Unconditional love is not an unconditional surrender! On the contrary. She lets herself be extremely valuable. An added value with high self-worth.
Married couples can really build each other up, help, promote, convey self-worth, go through challenges or be carried. That forms the quality of the relationship.
The speed of maturation increases the stronger the will of both partners. Couples can switch from unhappy to happy in just one month. But then you have to be able to let go, forgive the old injuries and be ready for a new beginning. It's quick to write, but corresponds to deeper inner struggles and victories over yourself. Anyone who needs help can knock on Jesus at any time, who has promised to help. Because God is love, and whoever is in love is in God and God is in him!
Characteristics for unconditional love are:
Concerning yourself:
Recognize your own strengths and weaknesses
See and express the good in critical moments
Replace 'love substitute gratifications' with goal-oriented action
Delight in truth, authenticity and integrity
Instead of manipulation, live respect, also towards yourself
Decision on the path of maturation
Patience brings you further, encourages listening to yourself and others
It's not the feelings that count, it's the decision
Become master of circumstances - be disaster-independent
At the beginning of every conscious change is the decision: "Yes, I want to go this way." If this motivation remains, then nothing stands in the way that cannot be mastered.
Regarding relationship:
Modesty, loyalty, reliability
Trust without control
miss each other without jealousy
Interest in time together
Interest in truth and authenticity
find each other without getting lost
live respect instead of manipulation
Security without loss of freedom
Say "sorry" and mean it
Accept and give help
Interest in the partner's well-being, promotion
Pray for one another, educate one another, read together
Every day gives us the opportunity to show the partner that we are a team, stick together, tackle problems together, think and feel for one another, support one another and like one another. What a chance!
Regarding the environment:
Respect for all living things
Respect for the rights of others and their property
Patiently addressing obvious problems of social need
Gratitude, honesty, kindness in everything you do
Quality awareness - quality wins
Many people don't know how bad things are for them. They need help, maybe from YOU, to be cleared up what unconditional love actually is, that there is much more value in life than they assumed. Because everyone is looking for love. Everyone needs them urgently.
Living love results in a highly qualified life, living together and suffering; it helps to feel the wishes, longings and needs of the other as one's own and not to lose oneself in them.
May many people benefit and choose from this love and be blessed by it.
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