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Implementing Resolutions Successfully - But How?

....Ein neues Jahr beginnt. Sicher eine günstige Zeit, sich Gedanken über eine bessere Lebensqualität zu machen. Hier ein paar Tipps, wie man sein eigenes Leben optimieren kann. Viel Mut und Kraft !..A new year begins. Certainly a good time to think…

A new year begins. Certainly a good time to think about a better quality of life. Here are a few tips on how to optimize your own life. Lots of courage and strength!

Resolutions are usually made at the beginning of the year. Many are so good that it is a shame if they are forgotten again. How can such goals really be put into practice so that the whole family and environment can benefit from them?

It should not be that good resolutions and goals like

  • investing more time with the family

  • to eat and live healthier

  • to do more exercise and sport

  • relieve unnecessary stress

  • stop smoking and drinking alcohol

are simply forgotten - despite initial motivation!

The Start at the Beginning of the New Year

....Das neue Jahr ist ein sehr geeigneter Zeitpunkt, mit solchen Vorsätzen zu beginnen. In anderen Zeiten wird es schneller mal aufgeschoben und dann leider aufgehoben! Es heisst, dass je schneller mit der Umsetzung eines Vorhabens begonnen wird, de…

The New Year is a very good time to begin with resolutions like this. At other times it is postponed faster and then unfortunately canceled! It is said that the sooner the implementation of a project is started, the higher the chance of persevering.

A - Beginning with accompaniment

Goals and resolutions that you set up together with others are much easier to achieve than if you want to tackle it alone. By teaming up with family members and friends, everyone can also benefit from the motivation of someone else involved. You automatically and consciously encourage each other.

Do not undertake too much at the same time. It is better to choose less and what is more important and guarantee a successful implementation than too much and then succumbing to excessive demands. Make your goal as attractive as possible. Better quality of life is always worth the effort.

Together we are strong!

....Manchmal kann auch über grössere Distanzen geholfen werden. Wo ein Wille, da ist auch ein Weg!..Sometimes help can also be provided over greater distances. Where there is a will, there is also a way!....

Sometimes help can also be provided over greater distances. Where there is a will, there is also a way!

In addition to the mutual incentive, there is also the fact that you can control each other. To tackle this challenge in a team (at least in pairs) promises more success. This is especially recommended when you quit smoking and have a fitness program.

B - Reward of Perseverance

With many resolutions, it is worth planning in interim goals. For example, if you want to reduce your stress, you cannot suddenly switch to zero. It is then better with a ‘step by step’ changeover. You have to learn to say ‘NO thank you’ more and better, to yourself and to others. The delegation of tasks can help in this.

Specify

It is easier to become aware of where success can be achieved with a concrete list of goals: If I want to “eat healthier”, then it is more advantageous to formulate partial steps such as:

  • There is fruit every morning for breakfast

  • Fish once a week

  • Every lunch includes vegetables

  • Dessert is only available twice a week

....Wie schön ist es doch, mit einem GESUNDEN  UND GUTEN Frühstück den neuen Tag zu beginnen. Mmmh...How nice it is to start the new day with a HEALTHY AND GOOD breakfast. Mmmm.....

How nice it is to start the new day with a HEALTHY AND GOOD breakfast. Mmmm.

Something like this can quickly lead to a sense of achievement. That motivates you to keep going. Once you've done this for a month, you can determine that you want to treat yourself to something. It goes without saying that you shouldn't do this with ice cream, chocolate and vanilla pudding with HEALTHIER LIVING ’. The reward shouldn't be counterproductive to goal setting.

C - Reject discouragement

If you reject discouragement and respond to setbacks that can occur with constructive progress, do not give up, but definitely want to break away from familiar patterns of the past, then you are on the right track. BRAVO!!

Pay attention to circumstances and stimuli that you want to throw back. Avoid this. From now on, a small failure can no longer dissuade you from your goal. It is your decision now.

Some challenges can drag on for up to 3 weeks. But they pass faster than the time after! That is why:

....Ich richte meinen Blick nach vorne und gehe weiter! In unseren Schweizer-Bergen kann man dies sehr gut trainieren!!..I look ahead and move on! You can practice this very well in our Swiss mountains!!....

I look ahead and move on! You can practice this very well in our Swiss mountains!!

You will be able to increase your quality of life a lot. Your family and friends will also be delighted with it. I'm happy for you!

Better DUET instead of DUEL

.... Welch eine Freude, wenn Mann und Frau zusammen die Familie zu einem Gemeinschaftswerk machen mit dem Ziel, sich und den Kindern eine sinnvolle, gute Zukunft zu bauen! Aber die Realität zeigt, dass dies die Ausnahmen sind. Dieser Blog möchte den…

What a joy when husband and wife together make the family a community effort with the goal of building a meaningful, good future for themselves and the children! But reality shows that these are the exceptions. This blog would like to encourage the reader to take a step forward here.

Wikipedia on DUEL and DUETT

DUET

Duo Latin means 'two'. A duet is a musical work by two musicians (ensemble) or two (vocal) soloists. Even in nature there are animals where two partners sing in a duet.

DUEL

Latin duellum means 'duel'. This means a voluntary duel with the same, potentially deadly weapons, where honor disputes are fought according to traditionally established rules. Duels are prohibited in most countries.

....Es ist einfach, eine Aktion des anderen zu verurteilen, wenn man die eigenen Vorlieben als Standard gesetzt hat!..It's easy to judge someone else's action if you set your preferences as the default!....

It's easy to judge someone else's action if you set your preferences as the default!

Important is:

Don't waste a good conflict!

Recognize the chances of conflict. Every conflict has growth potential. It shows the way to reality and truth and points to something really important. He also shows the need for adjustment, because the situation can quickly lead to improvement and more maturity.

It quickly becomes clear that your own personality has a strong influence on the result when resolving conflicts. The following are some hot questions that you may be able to answer for yourself:


How do you tend to deal with daily conflicts? (LINK)

  • Do you lose a lot of energy, do you quickly become insecure, lose your balance and do not know how to find a solution?

  • Can you say NO with kind eyes, even thank you, or ‘the moment is bad’, or do you refer nicely to rules or principles and know how to say the right thing at the right time? EXCELLENT!

Do you have a mature temperament, (LINK)

  • who has learned to look for the benefits, the truth and thus a good solution in conflicts?

  • or do you not care, but it is important that you see your honor saved?

What did you build your self-worth on? (LINK)

  • Is your track record more important than your relationships?

  • Do you only agree to a conflict resolution when a profit is secured?

  • Or are the relationships more important to you than anything else so that you do not have any relationship problems?

Do you know the partner's love languages ​​or your own? (LINK)

  • Could it be that that conflict just trampled on one of the five love languages ​​at the partner?

  • Was there perhaps too much reprimand instead of recognition?

  • Was physical or linguistic rigor used instead of tenderness?

  • Has practical help perished in the conflict?

Which of the following variants did you support in the last conflict? (LINK)

RETREAT? - fleeing the conflict area in a hurry, avoidance announced and everything swept under the carpet?

PUSH THROUGH? - was it about definitely asserting yourself, whatever the cost?

COMPROMISE? - did you try to reach a compromise, where everyone moves away from their demands and comes up to something until the partner is satisfied?

GIVE IN? - was it easier to just give in, to submit and for harmony to forego important things?

COOPERATION? - or did you opt for the best solution in most cases, which relies on creative cooperation and pursues an optimal solution with mutual interests?

....Oft erschweren die eingenommen Rollen die Konfliktlösung. Sind Sie ein Lehrer, der sich gewohnt ist, Schiedsrichter zu sein, immer recht zu haben und daher gewohnt ist, Entscheidungen für ‘Untergebene’ zu fällen? Dann ist es viel herausfordernde…

Often the roles taken make conflict resolution more difficult. Are you a teacher who is used to being a referee, always being right and therefore used to making decisions for 'subordinates'? Then it is much more challenging to look for a solution together democratically, sensitively, benevolently.

Self-awareness is crucial

We have seen that who we are plays a crucial role in conflict management. Those who live in balance have quickly found a healthy solution. Interesting that this topic is also addressed in the Bible. I particularly like Paul's statement in Ephesians chapter 5 verse 28:

If you love your spouse, you love yourself!

So if I know my deficits and strengths, I'm more likely to recognize them in others. This makes it much easier to solve everyday challenges.

....Fragen Sie sich doch einmal, wieweit Sie sich selber lieben. Können Sie das in etwa beantworten und vergleichen es mit der Liebesqualität, die Sie Ihrem PartnerIn entgegenbringen, dann wird Ihnen dieser obige Satz verständlicher sein...Ask yours…

Ask yourself how much you love yourself. If you can roughly answer that and compare it with the quality of love that you show your partner, then this sentence above will be more understandable to you.

Self-love and social competence (LINK)

These two important components determine our quality of life. Anyone who invests here will be rewarded. Our fears disturb us. These should be replaced with positive arguments, namely with love thoughts. Those who base their thoughts on love have good fruits to reap.

In our Christian West, we have also developed Christian values. They can no longer be felt everywhere, but are still very important. Here are some:

  • Respect your neighbor

  • Respect your neighbor higher than yourself

  • Every person is lovable

  • Together we are stronger


Of course, our understanding of love, be it conditional or unconditional (LINK), plays an important role. Our need for harmony and acceptance can also be very important when it comes to the outcome of a conflict. Here are some key words that can be supportive:

  • Not all conflicts are solvable

  • Why not give the humor a little space too?

  • It is better to discuss at the factual level than at the guilt level

  • If you can say ‘sorry’, you will help further

  • Instead of building a wall, a positive basic attitude helps better

  • Taking responsibility and giving trust helps

I wish you every success in your next conflict !!

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