Laughter Is Healthy - Really?

Many people claim that laughter is healthy. If that were true, then a lot more people should laugh, wouldn't they?

Influence Of HUMOR

1. Why do we laugh so little?

It is probably our performance mentality, indeed our performance society, that keeps us on our toes with a wide variety of tasks and demands that we constantly switch to the next urgent task.

As adults, we are particularly quick to recognize our responsibility. As a result, many of us are so stressed to perform that there is hardly any time for laughter.

Adults laugh an average of 15 times a day, while children do it up to 400 times!!

There is a Temperament, that is often successfull due to a strong display of emotions.

Another temperament uses joy and enthusiasm to influence others!

2. What can we do about it ?

First, our ability to make decisions will enable us to make necessary changes:

YES, I WANT TO LAUGH MORE BECAUSE LAUGHING IS GOOD FOR ME!!

As soon as you have made this decision, nothing can stop you from profiting from laughter!!

We must aware that laughter can have a surprisingly large impact on our mental state.

Here are a few tips:

1. Stop whatever you are doing often and take a deep breath.

2. Then try to look at your situation through the eyes of a child.

3. This will then tempt you to start smiling, even laughing.

4. Observe children who laugh a lot. Try to figure out their wonderful recipe.

3. Why is laughter actually healthy?

There are many reasons why laughter is good for us:

1. Laughter improves our breathing - lung function.

2. This breathing provides the brain with more oxygen.

3. In addition, our organs receive a kind of MASSAGE.

4. Stress hormones, ADRENALINE and CORTISOL, are broken down and

5. Happiness hormones, SEROTONIN and ENDORPHINE, are released.

6. This relaxes the muscles.

7. The blood pressure drops.

8. The immune system is strengthened.

9. The body regenerates faster and thereby activates its self-healing powers.

All of this helps us stay YOUNG or become YOUNGER and get better at sports. The following example as an illustration:

4. Interesting 'Detail'

You may have seen the current marathon world record holder, Mr. Eliud Kipchoge, run. He was asked why he was always smiling? He said that if you smile while you're running, you'll improve your running economy by about 2 percent because being slightly more relaxed means you're consuming less oxygen!! No wonder he's also an Olympic champion! At such a high level of performance, little things like that can make all the difference!

Here is his picture - double Olympic champion Eliud Kipchoge

5. What Kind of Laughter is Particularly Positive?

Actually, all types of laughter are positive, as long as nobody gets hurt. Even irony, especially self-mockery, can help us deal with challenging situations more easily and not take ourselves so SERIOUSLY!

Even sarcasm is not inherently negative. It can liven up a conversation among friends.

ATTENTION: If sarcasm is used to make fun of someone, i.e. to devalue another person who would be harmed by it, then you should refrain from doing so.

RULE: LAUGHING is positive when everyone involved can feel good about it!

6. Definition of HUMOR

You probably know the saying:

HUMOR IS WHEN YOU LAUGH ANYWAY!

This definition is pretty close to the truth. Humor is the ability to react calmly to everyday challenges. People who make us laugh are considered humorous.

So humor can be learned, you can train it. There are a number of studies that point in this direction.

TIP: Why not use more humor to increase our well-being and expand our understanding of everyday comedy so that we can laugh more often?

7. The Social Level

How does humor affect the social level? In other words:

Are humorous people more successful???

The probability is significant that humorous people are actually more successful! Interesting - why might that be?

We all like to surround ourselves with humorous people, right? We like them and have a positive, pleasant effect on us. Especially when stressful situations are imminent or occur, humorous friends help to master them with ease.

Bosses with a sense of humor are appreciated more quickly and are strong motivators for their employees. Working in a humorous TEAM is a real pleasure. This also increases performance.

TIP:

Maybe you've heard it before:

Anyone who simply lifts the corners of his or her mouth, thereby helping his or her face smile, influences his or her mental mood. This "I AM HAPPY" mood in the corners of one’s mouth activates the same areas in the brain as a genuine smile. It sends signals to the brain that we are happy.

So try it out right away: LIFT THE CORNER OF YOUR MOUTH - for 10 seconds. BRAVO.

Now we are all happy !!

Better DUET instead of DUEL

What a joy when husband and wife together make the family a community effort with the goal of building a meaningful, good future for themselves and the children! But reality shows that these are the exceptions. This blog would like to encourage the reader to take a step forward here.

Wikipedia on DUEL and DUETT

DUET

Duo Latin means 'two'. A duet is a musical work by two musicians (ensemble) or two (vocal) soloists. Even in nature there are animals where two partners sing in a duet.

DUEL

Latin duellum means 'duel'. This means a voluntary duel with the same, potentially deadly weapons, where honor disputes are fought according to traditionally established rules. Duels are prohibited in most countries.

It's easy to judge someone else's action if you set your preferences as the default!

Important is:

Don't waste a good conflict!

Recognize the chances of conflict. Every conflict has growth potential. It shows the way to reality and truth and points to something really important. He also shows the need for adjustment, because the situation can quickly lead to improvement and more maturity.

It quickly becomes clear that your own personality has a strong influence on the result when resolving conflicts. The following are some hot questions that you may be able to answer for yourself:

How do you tend to deal with daily conflicts? (LINK)

• Do you lose a lot of energy, do you quickly become insecure, lose your balance and do not know how to find a solution?

• Can you say NO with kind eyes, even thank you, or ‘the moment is bad’, or do you refer nicely to rules or principles and know how to say the right thing at the right time? EXCELLENT!

Do you have a mature temperament, (LINK)

• who has learned to look for the benefits, the truth and thus a good solution in conflicts?

• or do you not care, but it is important that you see your honor saved?

What did you build your self-worth on? (LINK)

• Is your track record more important than your relationships?

• Do you only agree to a conflict resolution when a profit is secured?

• Or are the relationships more important to you than anything else so that you do not have any relationship problems?

Do you know the partner's love languages ​​or your own? (LINK)

• Could it be that that conflict just trampled on one of the five love languages ​​at the partner?

• Was there perhaps too much reprimand instead of recognition?

• Was physical or linguistic rigor used instead of tenderness?

• Has practical help perished in the conflict?

Which of the following variants did you support in the last conflict? (LINK)

RETREAT? - fleeing the conflict area in a hurry, avoidance announced and everything swept under the carpet?

PUSH THROUGH? - was it about definitely asserting yourself, whatever the cost?

COMPROMISE? - did you try to reach a compromise, where everyone moves away from their demands and comes up to something until the partner is satisfied?

GIVE IN? - was it easier to just give in, to submit and for harmony to forego important things?

COOPERATION? - or did you opt for the best solution in most cases, which relies on creative cooperation and pursues an optimal solution with mutual interests?

Often the roles taken make conflict resolution more difficult. Are you a teacher who is used to being a referee, always being right and therefore used to making decisions for 'subordinates'? Then it is much more challenging to look for a solution together democratically, sensitively, benevolently.

Self-awareness is crucial

We have seen that who we are plays a crucial role in conflict management. Those who live in balance have quickly found a healthy solution. Interesting that this topic is also addressed in the Bible. I particularly like Paul's statement in Ephesians chapter 5 verse 28:

If you love your spouse, you love yourself!

So if I know my deficits and strengths, I'm more likely to recognize them in others. This makes it much easier to solve everyday challenges.

Ask yourself how much you love yourself. If you can roughly answer that and compare it with the quality of love that you show your partner, then this sentence above will be more understandable to you.

Self-love and social competence (LINK)

These two important components determine our quality of life. Anyone who invests here will be rewarded. Our fears disturb us. These should be replaced with positive arguments, namely with love thoughts. Those who base their thoughts on love have good fruits to reap.

In our Christian West, we have also developed Christian values. They can no longer be felt everywhere, but are still very important. Here are some:

• Respect your neighbor

• Respect your neighbor higher than yourself

• Every person is lovable

• Together we are stronger

Of course, our understanding of love, be it conditional or unconditional (LINK), plays an important role. Our need for harmony and acceptance can also be very important when it comes to the outcome of a conflict. Here are some key words that can be supportive:

• Not all conflicts are solvable

• Why not give the humor a little space too?

• It is better to discuss at the factual level than at the guilt level

• If you can say ‘sorry’, you will help further

• Instead of building a wall, a positive basic attitude helps better

• Taking responsibility and giving trust helps

I wish you every success in your next conflict !!