Fear Less – Step by Step

It touches everyone, some more, some less. Here are some tips and tricks for dealing with fear.

The Problem

Most of us know that regular exercise and balanced nutrition are keys to increasing our wellbeing and making us more stress and fear resistant. If only we would put our knowledge into practice! Instead, we often let ourselves get overwhelmed by our many duties and responsibilities and put our health on a back burner for later. It’s no wonder so much fear, stress and depression result, impacting and infecting increasing numbers of individuals.

It is interesting to note that fear is often associated with the future, depression has its roots in the past and stress is especially produced in the present. Are there solutions to be had that don’t require medications?

A Case Study

After a tough day at work, John made his way home through extremely trying traffic. Arriving home after dark, he rushed into the house and greeted his wife hastily on his way to the shower. His two children were playing in the living room, but John had no time for them. He was hungry and looking forward to dinner.

While he was eating, his wife, Bea, was fidgeting. "What’s up?" he asked a bit impatiently. "Your mom is worried and would like you to visit her some time.” "I can’t. I have bigger problems to deal with right now. My boss blew up today!" "Can’t you think of somebody besides yourself? And what about your children? They have been looking forward to spending time with you this evening!" "Nag, nag, nag! You don’t work! So you have time for them!"  Both parties were losers in that exchange.

Little Yolanda entered the room and gave her daddy an envelope. "Can’t you see I’m busy talking to Mommy?" John stuck the envelope in his pocket and Yolanda began to cry. Her mother started to stick up for her and John escaped to his room knowing he was in a losing fight. He had lost control of his emotions.

While he was getting undressed, he suddenly had the envelope in his hand. Yolanda had drawn him a picture and had written, “I love you, Daddy,” with a heart next to it for emphasis. John’s stomach cramped, realizing he had made a terrible mistake.

The question that crystalizes out of this example is: What is the most important thing in life? Our fears often lead us into dead-ends and destructive situations in life that we would never choose ourselves, if given a rational moment to think it through. Therefore, it is imperative that we look our fears in the eye and work them out. Right?

Children are usually the victims. They have too little experience and intellect to understand and process all the difficult situations they experience. No wonder so many find themselves struggling for emotional survival! The challenge for us as adults is to find ways to help these children break the cycle of fear.

Thoughts are Powerful

As you may read in the blogs on toxic thoughts (TOX1 - TOX2), our thoughts are a cofactor to health. Those who can control and regulate their own thoughts are at a distinct emotional advantage. That, however, is easier said than done.

A short refresher:  Our thoughts can influence our immune systems, which in turn influence our probability of getting cancer, lower our life expectancy, increase the time needed to recuperate from sicknesses, depress our moods and, consequently, decrease our social competence.

People who make positive thinking a habit get more out of life. Those who carry lovely pictures of the past around with them, who see difficulties as a part of a bigger, nicer picture, and who can speak well of yesteryear definitely do their approximately 70 trillion cells a huge favor. A similar advantage is produced when the future is contemplated with happy confidence.

The most important point to consider undoubtedly revolves around how we think about ourselves. If we regularly compare ourselves with great personalities (stars in the media), we will always lose. We need to learn to value our own talents and skills, but neither these nor our achievements can be the basis for our self-worth, or we will soon be in grave danger.

Of course, nobody can ALWAYS think ONLY positive thoughts. The death of a loved one is inevitably followed by a period of mourning. People of faith have a distinct advantage here: their time for grieving is normally shortened and eased by the hope that carries their thoughts beyond the grave. 

The human brain is absolutely sensational! Each person’s entire life is stored within those three crucial pounds of gray matter. So it is beneficial to understand how it works, or better, how it can be influenced for the good. What is the role of the frontal lobe (BLOG)? The amygdala? How can my lifestyle improve (or damage) brain function? These are important questions, but they seem more important to me, now that I know some answers.

Fear

Fear is a constant companion in life. It’s something like a “gift of creation”. We have also received tools to deal constructively with fear: experience, reason, self-awareness and especially love, which is the opposite of fear.  

Caroline

When Caroline was five years old, her father left her and her mother for a younger woman. One of the consequences of this move was that her mother had to get a job, and Caroline had to go to a day care center. It was not easy for her mom. She often complained about her meager financial circumstances. Having already lost her daddy, Caroline worried that her mother could also leave her (fear of loss) (Verlustangst) and her fear of the future grew with her awareness of life. She began to expect tragedy. She developed a negative pattern of thought that would surely accompany her into her adult life.

There are diverse kinds and shades of fear. From general phobias to panic attacks to fear of loss to posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), their roots can all usually be traced back to some devastating

Causes of Fear

Nature presents us with some beautiful examples of how animals overcome fear. It’s quite amazing when you consider the size of their frontal lobes as compared to ours!

Many fears are transmitted to children through their parents. Fear of failure, feelings of guilt, irrational fear (like of mice) and personal instability because of feelings of low self-worth can all produce huge deficiencies in children. People generally have little knowledge of their own fears and coping skills.

The main cause for all fear, as I see it, is a lack or loss of love. Love is the best medicine for fear. Where love is lacking, fear grows. Where love, security and appreciation are put into practice, fear must retreat and diminish.

That is easy to say, but where can you get love without stealing it? (BLOG) People who have a hard time dealing with life are often tempted to develop coping strategies such as power, pleasure and/or pride. When you get right down to it, these are all really just substitutes for love. The choices of counterfeits available today are as numerous as the stars.

Dealing with Fear

The symptoms of a fear disorder are often first seen after a stressful event. At those times, it would be advantageous to know how to best deal with them. Here are a few suggestions:

> Share Your Troubles

Having someone you can talk to in times of trouble is truly a gift. The investments you make in your family, friends and community will prove their value in times like these.

> Relax

Every person has developed his or her own way of relaxing. For some, it’s a walk by a river, for others, it’s listening to music, hanging around, reading or painting pictures. Find your way, and do it.

> Breathe Deeply

When people are afraid, they breathe shallowly. Breathing IN and OUT slowly, deeply and thoughtfully several times can bring balance back into a difficult moment. Afterwards, it will be easier to think clearly and rationally.

> Eat Healthy

But what is healthy? There are HUGE discrepancies in what is promoted as healthy nowadays! Let me summarize my humble opinion in a nutshell: The more natural, the healthier. Please check out the blog called NEWSTART .

> Self-Help Groups

In many towns there are self-help groups where you can share your troubles with and learn from others. These are especially helpful if you don’t have friends or family who understand your issues.

> CBT: Thought Stopping

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is a good method for many for managing fear and intrusive negative thoughts. As soon as you recognize an undesirable thought, consciously STOP it by turning your thoughts to something positive and desirable. Refuse to dwell on toxic thoughts.

Other options for those who need extra help include asking a doctor for assistance. Pharmacological solutions are sometimes unavoidable.

> Our Creator Can Help

o Style Your Life:  Life is a challenge. Causality, or the question of why things are the way they are, along with questions about our vulnerability, our own and that of our relationships, occupy our thoughts day by day. In order to arrive at the wisest of conclusions, it would be beneficial to ask our Creator these questions personally. He has all the answers. For this reason, many Christians read the Bible. In it they find sensational, deep, psychological bits of wisdom that make life worth living. Living life with HIS values leads to more quality of life and love. Are you interested in an example? Ephesians 5:28 says: He that loves his wife loves himself! Think about that for a moment. What could it mean?

o Stay in Touch:  For example, Christians go to church regularly. They think and feel and act in each other’s best interest, which strengthens their feeling of community. Together they are strong!

o Contact the King:  Please allow me to make one of my favorite suggestions: Take a moment, three times a day in a quiet place, to get in touch with God. It is not important that you feel like it. Just make a decision to do it and don’t let anything distract you from it. Tell Him what’s on your heart. If you are attentive and willing to learn, you will experience how His voice speaks with you through your conscience. 

Many people pray only in a dire emergency, when there’s no other way out. That’s sad. We could have so much more. God invites us to come directly to Him. He promises to reward us when we do. In the Bible, that’s called a blessing. That’s the best key.

Interesting Facts about LEARNING

In order for a person to be able to reach their full potential later on, they are dependent on a high quality education in the first three years of life. Research also shows that the next three years are the optimal learning time to acquire the basic skills. Are you surprised?

The Beginning of Learning

It is clear that we parents are our children's first teachers. Although we do not give formal lessons, it is important in this phase to encourage the toddlers' innate urge to learn, in any case not to hinder or neglect it. These children are born with an innate hunger for experience and knowledge. This hunger remains as long as it is not driven out by wrong behavior such as lack of supply, beatings or constant frustration.

This early learning behavior is so strongly influenced by the strong intrinsic motivation. The need for movement alone will make you stand up from crawling and later steps will be dared. It wants to conquer the world with a thousand questions. Through observation, many behaviors and peculiarities are adopted from others, mostly from siblings. (see BLOG about this).

Teenagers mimic adults. Everything that is fun and cool is copied. The joy of learning usually remains as long as you can actively deal with it.

Learning through identification and imitiation is an everyday learning method for children and young people. They get along very well, especially with the media. Fascinating on the one hand, but also dangerous for social skills and the frontal lobe on the other. More on that later.

Learning at Home

Ideally, intellectual advancement will take place at home. Using your five senses, colors, tones, objects and edibles are tested and possibly set out on a discovery tour in nature. Verbal stimulation promotes language and allows the natural urge to learn new things.

A balanced atmosphere at home encourages learning. Because children are emotional beings, they also learn best about their feelings. So learning has a lot to do with the child's emotional maturity. The more developed a child is on the emotional intelligent level, the better learning outcomes can be expected. The parents encourage or inhibit this spiritual maturity. Learning becomes a joy thanks to the child's filled love tank.

A warm and loving relationship between parents and children is the basis for relaxed, joyful learning and also for a healthy self-esteem. So it's not just about promoting the intellect, but also about emotional maturation.

We are currently experiencing it with our little grandchildren: We totally unite in learning. If the child is met at their learning level, a strong bond develops with you. Take this chance.

What can go wrong

Divorce or Separation of Parents

There is hardly an event that has such a striking impact on the relationship between love and learning in children. Such a traumatic event empties the love tank and with it the joy of learning. This uprooting is followed by additional fears (fear-of-loss blog). If, through appropriate parental measures, there is a little more security and the child learns to enjoy parental love again, things will be a little better. But it can no longer recover. It is all the more important in such cases to use the five love languages as consistently as possible.

The basic need for love and security, security and appreciation is so great and strongly developed in all children that a separation or divorce is extremely irritating. Now that the child is learning in great development what love actually is, it is disturbed at the most delicate point in this learning process: the bond with its parents, the most important people and authorities.

Disinterest

Statistics show that with parents interested in school material, the children's ability to absorb the material is significantly better. There is no learning without motivation. The children are sometimes dependent on parental motivation. If we show disinterest in whether our child smokes or takes drugs, the likelihood of a subsequent dependency increases.

Sure, we parents learned the multiplication table at some point. But for the child there are hurdles that still have to be overcome, as playful, fun and interested as possible. Help him.

Father Role

The influence of fathers on children's development is mostly underestimated. For example, an 11-year study showed that the more interested the father was in family life, the less likely the children were to later become criminals. In addition, their level of education was considerably higher. 584 families with children between 7-11 years old were examined. As a 20-year-old, the line was drawn, with the result that the more committed the father, the higher the level of schooling and the less often there were social failures.

The fathers usually prefer a certain age for the children: some feel comfortable with children who can already play football, others can do well with small children. For many, it is a challenge to move on the level of the child's mind. But where there is a will, there is also a way. Don't give up so easily. It's about your own child. It is definitely worth jumping over your own shadow for this.

Dealing with fears

We are all born with fear. One child is - partly due to genetic factors - more sensitive than the other. If a child learns to deal with their fears well, they will be able to develop positively. If, however, there are many fears that cannot be overcome by means of love language, i.e. the child feels unloved, this is particularly evident when taking new learning steps. Fears of failure tend to develop when learning content becomes more abstract (e.g. early 4th grade). The feeling of losing touch with classmates can be a big drain on self-esteem. Sooner or later this can lead to depression (see toxic thoughts BLOG).

That is why emotional maturity is so important. This means that the child is able to control fears, endure normal stress, and stay balanced during changes. As mentioned, this is best achieved with a love tank filling.

Children who have difficulty making eye contact and are somewhat shy of contact with their peers and adults reveal uncontrollable and unprocessed fears and tensions. These children should definitely be helped. But how ?

Motivate Children

Basics of Motivation

Perhaps you have already wondered how you can motivate your child to do something. The basis of emotion motivation is a filled love tank and more or less successful feeling management. Once these two factors are in place, it is much easier to motivate children. A child with an empty love tank tends to be passive-aggressive, doing exactly what the parents don't expect or hope. As a third component, it is therefore important to enable and encourage the child to take responsibility for their own behavior. Anyone who can do that is already motivated.

It is usually easy to motivate children if we address them in their language. They love to try something with their daddy that no one else does with them. There is nothing like an experience with your parents.

Arouse Interest

What does your child enjoy? What is it interested in, even if only partially? Maybe they like to listen to music. Why not learn a musical instrument? It is important that it is not your wish alone, but that this wish is nourished in the child (from extrinsic to intrinsic motivation) through attention and a sense of achievement.

Handing over Responsibility

After all, we want to lead our children into independence, into adulthood. We achieve this goal if we do not solve all of the child's problems ourselves, but rather, the older it is, let more and more participate in problem-solving. This gives the child the chance to develop independent thinking and acting. There is also the variant that the child is asked age-appropriate questions, the answers of which can then be used. This can leave a deep impression on the child's mental structure.

Passive Aggressiveness

Passive aggression is actually typical, especially during puberty. With this the teenager searches for the vulnerable point of the adults. You can do that with bad grades, sloppy homework, and inadequate job support. The rule here is that the parents refuse to take responsibility for their failure, otherwise their motivation cannot grow. So do not let yourself be infected by the general educational trend of relieving children of more and more responsibility. Parents in particular, who want to 'prove' their love with it, do exactly the opposite.

Still, it's important to find ways to fill teenagers' love tanks. Find out their love language. Then it will be easier to secure your emotional support.

Teenagers are in a critical development phase. A lot of uncertainty and fears produce aggression. Social instability, supported by excessive media consumption, often clearly shows social incompetence.

Use Love Language

There are two suitable moments during the school day to use the child's love language: when saying goodbye before school and when greeting after school. It can be caresses, a special farewell greeting, a wish-breakfast, a compliment or other attention. These two important moments in particular can help the child to cope better with everyday life. As already mentioned: If the father can also get involved, then it leaves its mark.

When Adults Learn

Lifestyle

As the explanations have shown, our learning behavior is influenced by various motivators and demotivators. When you hear how people used their brain potential hundreds of years ago and compare it to our kind, you get a little embarrassed, don't you? Our lifestyle defines our learning limits. Although all imaginable information is available in our information age and it doubles every 1-2 years, we are lost with our learning potential, or what is left of it.

It's great when adults recognize the importance of continuing education. The more they are

intrinsically motivated, the better.

Selection

So for us the question is rather what is worth learning. The choice is too big. We have to prioritize. This selection requires values ​​as decision criteria. Think about what you really want to learn in your life? Is it expertise for your job? Or do you want to develop empathy, i.e. to get to know more about the functionalities of people, so that you can be of help and support in your family, among friends?

With increasing age (see 40+ BLOG) one notices that the memory and with it the memory decreases and learning becomes more and more difficult. More and more, our life is reduced to early childhood behavior until we say goodbye.

Training from Morning to Night

However, those who can still fall back on high motivators will still be able to show surprising learning results in old age. Those who have trained their brain into old age benefit from it. What was neglected can hardly be restored. Dear younger readers, bear this in mind in your everyday life. Don't always take the most comfortable learning path, challenge your IQ and EQ (BLOG). It will be worth it !

Improving EQ through Lifestyle

For many, eating is taboo. Nobody is allowed to interfere. The results are all the more devastating: obesity, illnesses, diabetes II. Sure, the food has to taste good, in any case. Nowadays, good and healthy food can be served in our latitudes. The hard question is: what is really healthy eating?

Here are some blog links on the subject to introduce you, dear reader, to this important topic.

EQ0 (Definition)  -  EQ0 (Areas Of Live)  -  EQ1 (Marriage and Family)  -  EQ2 (Job)

As a reminder: The five areas of social life:

1. MARRIAGE u FAMILY (mutual understanding based on self-image)

2. PROFESSION (dealing with colleagues, subordinates, with the boss, motivation)

3. HEALTH (healthy lifestyle promotes the frontal lobe)

4. ENVIRONMENT (privacy, public and society can see added value)

5. SPIRITUALITY (understanding and dealing with belief in a postmodern context)

3. Health

How do you like the following: General health is the result of the application of human laws of nature. If we knew our needs better and if we knew how best to meet them, then health would be a corollary. There are certainly exceptions. (Genetics)

Imagine that we humans would obey the laws of nature and cultivate our relationship with nature, learn from it and recover. What would happen to us - But no, we want to be independent, create our own laws, live our own lives autonomously, no matter what the cost. Is health still possible like this?

WHO defines: "Health is a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being, and not just the absence of illness or ailment."

Although we live in a sophisticated, medically high-quality health system, it strikes me again and again that there are interest groups who are nevertheless not interested in our health. I think among other things to the pharmaceutical industry, which can have a significant influence on our state of health via medicine.

Interaction: physical, mental, social

Viewed individually, a person can, for example, be physically fully functional, but have psychological problems or live socially isolated. How strongly these three aspects of health interact, however, we feel very quickly in ourselves or in our fellow human beings. Our body reacts to stress, fears, and conflicts. Our mental freshness diminishes as soon as we become physically ill. Our social contacts can also suffer.

When we are young, we usually do not consider the consequences of our lifestyle. Only in old age is the bill presented for it. Health is particularly important at retirement age. Then you still have time to do it. A healthy lifestyle pays off right from the start.

Only the positive interaction of all factors means health.

The assessment of these factors can, however, be very subjective and it is not uncommon for one's own well-being to be an indicator of one's "perceived" health.

About every 20th patient who see a doctor suffers from hypochondriac disorders, which is also a disease. These patients feel sick, fear illness, and are so fixated on their bodies that they experience physical symptoms that a doctor cannot diagnose.

The other way around, a person can feel very good and healthy until he receives a diagnosis from the doctor, such as Cancer. Many physical illnesses are not recorded by the patient themselves, or are never recorded at all, because the body's self-healing powers work and illnesses can be dealt with by the body itself before they become noticeable to the person concerned. Thanks to a good lifestyle and / or a strong psyche.

What affects our health?

Almost all of our living conditions have a direct or indirect effect on our health: air, soil and water quality, nutrition, exercise, sleep, rest, relaxation, stress, self-image, social contacts, love, sexuality, work, security, recognition, life goals and hobbies . There are other aspects that have a positive or negative effect on our health.

Love and intimacy in particular can have the greatest positive effects on health. However, this does not always have to be associated with such an acrobatic exercise!

Control the impact yourself

A healthy lifestyle contributes significantly to maintaining health. Anyone who constantly exploits their own body through a lack of exercise, unhealthy diet and addictive behavior destroys their own health.

Unemployment, strokes of fate or environmental influences can usually not be avoided. But it pays to expand your own control and develop joy in good health.

Mental / Spiritual Health

PESSIMISM is very bad for our health. It weakens the immune system. Our health at 60 is heavily dependent on how strong optimists / pessimists we were when we were 25. (says Martin E.P. Seligman, psychologist). The inner attitude seems to be fundamentally important. The joy of the pessimist that he gossips about the bad experience because he was right is probably not a forward-looking attitude. (See blog Toxic Thoughts).

OPTIMISM only wants to see or expect the good. If this is based on a realistic background, then sooner or later this will also have a positive effect on the environment. It is interesting that what you see and expect coming often also happens. Here are a few positive effects:

• better health thanks to better chemical brain processes (see blog ToxG-Env)

• longer life expectancy thanks to mental well-being

• better perception thanks to stronger mental abilities

• deeper relationships thanks to pleasant personality

• Setbacks and rainfall are temporary and provide learning material

• the mental resistance (resilience) is greater

Some people seem to be born optimists. Nothing can tarnish your feelings of happiness. Let's do it after them!

How do you become an optimist?

1. It helps to move more in optimistic company. Optimism is contagious. Instead of always talking about negative things from others, you can also mention positive things.

2. Become aware of your negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones. It's a training thing, but it's worth it. Pull someone into your trust. Then it's even faster.

3. If someone asks you, "How are you?" Then you say: "Very good, thank you." This even if you are not doing so well, because now you have the opportunity and the impetus to quickly make use of your gratitude and indulge your happiness in valuable relationships.

4. Learn to make the best of uncomfortable situations. You are stuck in a traffic jam. Do not allow frustrating emotions and expressions, but find reasons for positive thinking.

Much more could of course be written about mental health.

Physical health

Many people have found that exercising in some form makes them feel positive. This means fitness. Fitness is an umbrella term for healthy nutrition, exercise, training of strength, endurance and coordination.

The risk of developing diseases of civilization such as heart attack, obesity, lung cancer, colon cancer and diabetes II can be reduced through targeted fitness training. In addition, the ability to concentrate and learn is increased. People who actively keep fit are considered healthier and, statistically speaking, have a higher quality of life and life expectancy. This also increases your EQ, especially in the areas of 'self-motivation' and 'emotional self-regulation'. More information on this in the blogs EQ0 (Definition)  and EQ0 (AreasOfLife).

So don't miss this. Use your self-motivation, set an achievable goal, find a like-minded person, and begin your fitness program. You will not regret it.

Movement, let's say at least 5000 steps a day, has an enormously positive influence on health. Jogging 2-3 times a week as interval training will keep you young and strong.

Social health

Like me, like me, like you!

As I am to myself, so am I to others too. Ok, sometimes you can play a role, play a salesman, sell yourself better than you are. But the source of motivation for dealing with other people comes from within.

Those who hate themselves also hate others. Those who have accepted themselves find it easy to treat their fellow human beings in a positive way. In the blog about SELF-HATE and SELF-LOVE there is more detailed information.

Tit for Tat !

Many people reduce their social contacts to the level of REACTION. If YOU are good with me, then so am I with you! The blog CONDITONAL LOVE talks about it. This makes us dependent on other people's goodwill. We no longer live our own lives.

How about UNCONDITIONAL LOVE ? This component changes a lot, yes it opens our social potential, enables miracles in relationships such as marriages, family and professional life.

Let us remember: WE shape our social world ourselves. We can choose healthy relationships. That is probably not always easy, but possible. With a strengthened frontal lobe, we also make healthy decisions thanks to a healthy lifestyle.

Final thought: Eating healthy alone does not create holistic health. My attitude towards life, towards myself and towards other people has greater influence. Anyone who does something for physical, mental and social health will also benefit from it. And with him also his environment. BRAVO.

Toxic Thoughts - What Does It Include?

What we think of others has a lot to do with us and our perception. Behind this is our value system.

Our Brain - a Scientific Challenge

Ever since scientific research institutionalized epigenetics, new discoveries have come onto the 'market' almost every day, which are always surprising. Not for good Bible and prophecy connoisseurs, however.

While psychology tries to help people learn to deal with toxic thoughts, biblical thought tries to make us aware that there is a solution and that one does not have to be at the mercy of destructive thoughts.

The desire to get rid of toxic mindsets is everywhere. Indeed, it is possible. We can renew our minds. Today the biblical principles are scientifically supported.

Caution: The more extreme the symptoms of the illness due to toxic thoughts, the more important it is to be looked after by specialists.

In the case of severe mental disorders, a visit to a specialist is necessary. However, even then, a healthy lifestyle (NEWSTART PLUS) will have a very positive effect.

Today, in the information age, which is doubling every few years worldwide, we have a better understanding of how we can influence our thoughts, feelings and our bodies.

What are Toxic Thoughts?

Toxic thoughts are like poison. They can destroy our health, our relationships and our existential added value (success).

ONE thought alone can become a physical, emotional or even spiritual danger. Thoughts are measurable these days. They are active, grow, change and influence our decisions, words, actions and every physical reaction.

Every thought has the potential to change the brain and the body - for better or for worse.

Toxic thoughts do not arise as a result of abuse or trauma. They affect us all at all ages. Even the smallest annoyance can become toxic.

The consequence of toxic thinking affects our body in the form of stress. Stress is the general term for extreme stress on the physical system from toxic thinking. Damage is the result: memory gaps, mental disorders, weakening of the immune system, heart and digestive problems. See next blog.

There are a number of studies that make it clear that up to 80% of modern diseases can be viewed as a direct result of our thought life.

Why is the problem of toxic thinking unknown?

We live in a scientific revolution today. In the past, when doctors couldn't find a cause for an illness, they might say: "You are just imagining it." A biological cause of mental illness was not seen as fundamental.

The brain was seen as a machine that wears out and is largely defined by our genes.

Today we know that we are not victims of biology. We can turn on our brains, renew our minds, change and heal ourselves. There is hope for children with learning difficulties, patients with head injuries, and people seeking inner peace.

This rigid mind-body separation is over. Since thoughts can be measured nowadays, it is known that they have an impact on our entire life.

We have a highly developed health system in most countries today. Nevertheless, people often remain neglected in their real search for causes and the satisfaction of basic needs.

How do toxic thoughts work?

How do they differ from healthy thoughts?

Toxic thoughts are thoughts that trigger negative and fearful feelings, which in turn produce biochemical substances that stress the body. They are stored in both the mind and the body cells.

There are certain topics (2 blogs follow) that can cause serious damage and should therefore be rejected. How about a 'brainwashing' or brain cleaning for the purpose of detoxification?

Thoughts, positive or negative, are electrical impulses, chemical substances, and nerve cells. They resemble a tree. The more the thoughts develop, the more branches the tree receives. By changing the mind, the tree also changes.

Our value system is always addressed with every thought. Our attitude is activated and can even be made visible in chemical substances.

1. A positive attitude leads to the release of a 'correct' amount of chemical substances.

2. A negative attitude falsifies the chemical release so that it becomes irritated.

These chemical substances are tough. As cell-like signals, they transmit the information to the body and mind, which can then trigger a feeling.

In this way, the body and mind can be positively and negatively influenced. We can perceive this influence in our feelings ourselves. (Risk of accident, wedding proposal, "I'm pregnant !!", termination ...)

For every memory we have stored a corresponding emotion, and that in the brain and as a copy in the body cells. That's sensational, isn't it? First are the thoughts, then follow the feelings, which lead to a reaction in the body and mind. This is called a psychosomatic network.

. man, did I miss something because of that?

So as soon as a memory of a certain situation is called up, feelings that were produced many years ago can be relived.

Experiment:

Try to remember a sad experience. The more intensely you succeed in this, the stronger the feelings are set in motion by chemical substances from the past and from the present moment. You may now have become angry, or frustrated, or sad. Sorry If you manage to regain your balance with a positive experience, then congratulations !!

Whatever works: As soon as we smile - it can be a grimace - however we feel, the laughing muscle 'speaks' to the brain and reports 'everything is ok'. You should do this for at least a minute if your soul is down. Psychosomatics sends its regards.

Today, thanks to epigenetics, we know that our experiences can have an influence even on genes. This can change the cell predisposition. In this way, diseases can 'fix' themselves in the body. But as soon as we think non-toxic, "feel-good" substances are released, which give us a feeling of inner peace and accelerate healing and also give us better storage capacity and sharper thinking. This increases among other things. the emotional intelligence! (Blog on this follows)

In the following blogs we will think about how we can 'conquer' stress and gain better control over our emotions.

As we think, so are we!

There is usually more to life than what we mean. We give up quickly or are satisfied with little. Toxic thoughts screw up a better life. That can not be. Let's get on the sunny side of life!

If you are interested in moving towards an emotionally happy and physically healthy lifestyle, then give yourself a chance and read the following blogs on the subject.

If you have 'thoughts', additions or questions, then register with your email address and write in the blog. Wish you a good week.

PS. Reference book: "Who turned my brain off" by Dr. Caroline Leaf