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Dealing With Change

....Wie allgemein bekannt: Das Chamäleon ist ein Meister, wenn es um die Anpassung an die Umgebung geht. Einmalig. Uns Menschen fällt es nicht immer so leicht, uns neuen Herausforderungen und ändernden Lebensumständen anzupassen...As everyone knows,…

As everyone knows, the chameleon is a master when it comes to adapting to its surroundings. Unique. It is not always so easy for us humans to adapt to new challenges and changing living conditions.

What Does Change Mean?

Change is a part of life. They are inevitable. Without them, all the development opportunities and growth would not be possible. Why is it that we still often feel uncomfortable about them?

Life is change

We cannot not change!

Something is always going on in all of our lives. We don't always think, feel and act in the same way. As long as our mind is vigilant, we automatically perceive changes, the HSPs (LINK) more naturally. If we look out the window, we can see that today is a different weather than yesterday. The seasons, the fashion, the social trends, the technology of the cars, everything does not stand still, but is subject to constant change.

Without change there would be no further development

The consequence is that it is a great advantage for us if we learn - as early as possible - to deal constructively with changes.

Change Is An Opportunity

Usually behind every change there is an opportunity for improvement. It can be better afterwards, but it can also be worse. And that's exactly what we want to learn to avoid with this blog!

So what matters is what we do in such a situation. However, we always have the choice to suffer and complain about a change, but we can also, as optimists (LINK), be interested in the opportunities and possibilities that are offered.

Living self-confidently means initiating changes yourself! Wow!

....Veränderungen können in verschiedene Richtungen verlaufen. Wichtig ist, dass man sich bewusst ist, welche Richtung für sich selbst die richtige ist!!..Changes can go in different directions. It is important that you are aware of which direction …

Changes can go in different directions. It is important that you are aware of which direction is the right one for yourself!

This makes change an instrument for actively shaping one's life. It's about YOUR own life! As soon as we want to change something in our life, we have a positive attitude towards change. Excellent!

The Unknown Often Scares Us

Changes automatically challenge us because new things come our way. We have to learn to deal with that. New things seem threatening to some, because they cannot yet assess the possible dangers and inconveniences associated with it. Every temperament (LINK) reacts differently.

We can act consciously against any skepticism that may arise and deal more with the positive aspects of a change than with uncertainties that may occur but are often overemphasized in fearful people.

Our skepticism or fear about change is perfectly natural because it ensures our survival. We just mustn't allow ourselves to be dominated by these impulses.

The more we know about change processes, the easier it will be for us to use them to our advantage.

Action <=> Reaction

Instead of acting, we often have to react. Why? Because we often wait so long.

Many people feel like a pawn in their environment. You experience yourself as externally controlled. Society, employers and the surrounding area are also perceived as more active and more change-friendly. This strengthens one's own comfort and passivity (see PHLEGMATIC).

....Gerade Kleinkinder verlangen von uns sofortige Reaktionen. Sie verändern sich laufend. Es gibt keine Ruhe - ausser Nachtruhe - das Leben mit Kindern fordert heraus und verlangt dauernde Veränderungen...Small children in particular demand immedia…

Small children in particular demand immediate reactions from us. They are constantly changing. There is no rest - except for a good night's sleep - life with children is challenging and requires constant change.

So we only become active ourselves when there is no other way; when external pressure forces you to act.

It's easy to forget that we already have a choice, but it's too easy to miss it.

They feel that all they can do is react to what is happening around them. Such people think that change is always coming from the outside and there is nothing you can do but respond to it.

In reality, however, we could very well have changed the situation ourselves.

Example: Termination

Let's assume you are sitting at your desk and suddenly a colleague comes in and tells you that you should come to the boss, please. There, your supervisor will tell you in the presence of the authorized signatory that the company regrets it very much, but that they unfortunately have to part with you as an employee. You will be terminated at the next possible date.

A stroke of fate? A change completely out of the blue? And you couldn't see it at all? Is it really like that?

....Manchmal ist es fünf vor zwölf und wir merken es gar nicht. Höchste Zeit aufzuwachen! Manchmal ist es ratsam, nicht nur seine, sondern auch die Uhr eines guten Freundes anzuschauen...Sometimes it's five to twelve and we don't even notice. High t…

Sometimes it's five to twelve and we don't even notice. High time to wake up! Sometimes it is advisable to look not only at his watch but also at that of a good friend.

Recognize the omens and draw the consequences

Almost all changes have omens. In the example above, it could possibly have been poor company results, outsourcing, or other restructuring.

The only thing that matters is whether we perceive these signs and then act accordingly.

As a rule, we have a lot of possibilities to see in which direction something is going. We just need to open our eyes, actively seek to get the important information, and then deal with it appropriately.

In this way you can shape your own life and bring about a self-chosen and beneficial change for you (e.g. looking for a better job in good time). And that before you can only react to changes from outside (the termination).

Recognize Signs In Good Time

Almost all changes have omens. In the above example of a termination, it could be poor company results, outsourcing or other restructuring.

The only thing that matters is whether we perceive these signs and then act accordingly. As a rule, there are many ways to tell the direction in which something is going. We just need to open our eyes and actively seek to get the important information and then react accordingly.

In this way, you can shape your own life and bring about a change that is of your own choosing and that is beneficial to you (e.g. looking for a better job in good time) and this before you have to react to a termination - from outside.

But if we ignore all signs and hope that everything stays the same, the moment will come at some point when the change - in the example the termination - actually hits us like a stroke of fate to which we can only react. Then we quickly feel overwhelmed, helpless and insecure.

....Die heutige Medienwelt ist voll von Informationen, die uns teilweise angenehm erscheinen, aber auch voll von überfordernden Mitteilungen, die uns unsicher machen können und die Angst vor Veränderungen und selbstbewusstem Vorgehen vergrössern...T…

Today's media world is full of information that sometimes seems pleasant to us, but also full of overwhelming messages that can make us insecure and increase the fear of change and self-confident approach.

Choose Change Yourself

You feel completely different when you consciously perceive the signals. Recognizing small signals can help initiate changes yourself.

Instead of REACTION there will be ACTION. I control my approach. This can prevent extremely unpleasant situations.

Example Health

Such a time comes when we notice small signs of health problems. At the latest then it is worthwhile to know the most important health principles (LINK) and to implement them immediately. Many could thus protect themselves from medical intervention and unhealthy medication.

The question. whether you should change anything in the way you live is a very important question. If this topic is not taken seriously enough, then a so-called “stroke of fate” is more and more likely. It can then be called CANCER, surgery, medication, etc. Too bad. One could have prevented, for example, if one had adhered to these most important health rules: NEWSTART PLUS.

....Viele Menschen scheuen Veränderungen so sehr, dass sie auch gesundheitliche Nachteile in Kauf nehmen. Dabei könnten viele mit einer Lebensstil-Anpassung ihre Gesundheit auch ohne Medikamente signifikant verbessern - dies ist eine Erfahrung, die …

Many people shy away from changes so much that they also accept health disadvantages. Many of them could significantly improve their health even without medication with a lifestyle adjustment - this is an experience that we are able to make on an ongoing basis in our Sonnmatt health center.

Finally, a few suggestions for topics where a situation analysis is most appropriate:

Foresee Change

Take your time to think about where changes in your life might be expected or necessary:

  • at the workplace / in the company

  • in partnership

  • regarding your health

  • own satisfaction and well-being

  • in terms of financial security

  • regarding personal growth and development

  • in questions of future planning

  • or are there other important areas?

TIP:

Make it a habit to keep thinking about where you could actively change something yourself. In the way you think it is smart and wise not to fall into a "trap".

From Woman To Woman

....Einige Tipps im Umgang mit der Männerwelt - eine interessante - herausfordernde und manchmal amüsante Welt...Some tips in dealing with the man's world - an interesting - challenging and sometimes amusing world.....

Some tips in dealing with the man's world - an interesting - challenging and sometimes amusing world.

My Lady Terri-Lynn writes:

Dear women!

At the beginning, when Ernst asked me to write something for his blog, I thought, “I can't do that.” But the more I put myself into the subject, the more I got pleasure: I hope you will find it with Read like this ...

When I was a young girl, I listened to music a lot. One song that I really liked was a country song:

"Stand by Your Man!"

The song was about loyally standing by the husband's side and supporting him through thick and thin, even if he makes a mistake. After all, he is only a man (human).

As a teen I was very impressed by this song, and the desire grew in me to stand next to my husband, although I still had no idea who he would be.

I met him when I was 20. He was big and beautiful, musical, sporty and funny. More importantly - he was intelligent - the smartest I knew until then! The list of its merits could be expanded, but these adjectives should suffice.

It didn't take long before I was blown away. He was the first man (actually the only one) I wrote a song for. This is how it started:

I met a boy - I fell in love:

He’s everything that I've been dreamin ’of.

He took my heart - he took my hand:

He showed me things I did not understand.



The song goes on, but at least you see: I had found the one man I thought I could stand behind.
When I later found the following card:

....George Washington mit seiner Frau Martha..George Washington with his wife Martha....

George Washington with his wife Martha

"Behind every successful man there is a woman."

I just had to give it to him. She was pretty straight forward (cheeky), because it went on as follows:

"If there’s no one standing behind you yet, I would like to fill out an application."

That was, please, no marriage proposal; that was just SERIOUS(=Ernst) fun!

And now we've been married for over 40 years! My wish came true, so to speak, and I have a man next to, behind, in front of and under - not over - whom I am allowed to stand by.

....Ernst hatte den Fotografen fast überrannt, als er vor Freude mit mir aus der Kirche rannte...Ernst almost overran the photographer when he ran out of church with me for joy.....

Ernst almost overran the photographer when he ran out of church with me for joy.

To be honest, it wasn't always just a must; marriage is a school. It's not just “like” a school; it is actually a school and I had a LOT to study! (Luckily he is also a patient teacher. :-)

I also learned a lot that way. He also. (Sometimes I thought it would be good, he would learn so quickly too. :-)

It is not always easy to stand behind a man. In our society women learn that women have to “develop”, “discover”, “realize”, and the underlying idea is, “You have to free yourself from the yoke of submission and do what YOU want!”

....Eine glückliche Ehe bauen heisst manchmal auch Schwerarbeit leisten...Building a happy marriage sometimes means doing hard labor.....

Building a happy marriage sometimes means doing hard labor.

It is true that sometimes during our marriage I felt the need to want to be a little more. Sometimes I didn't pay enough attention to my role at home and gave free rein to my dissatisfaction. But what I learned from it:

My response belongs to my responsibility

If a situation doesn't suit me, I can scold and complain. But that only makes me ugly and ugly. If I make the best of it, then I am happy and beautiful (er).

My luck

I have learned:

the key to my happiness - I hold it in my own hand.

I've learned that if I stand by my husband, even if he makes a mistake, I am happier too. That doesn't mean that I never tell him if I think he's wrong. No no. Open communication is very important. But how? When I smile, he smiles too. And that's so nice!

For women who are thinking of getting married, I would simply like to warmly recommend: think carefully about whether you would like to stand next to, behind, in front of and under a man (with all his faults). Now you still have a choice. And choose the right one! Let yourself be well advised! Butterflies are dangerous.

When Ernst and I had difficulties, I went to the USA with the children. We visited my old Sabbath school teacher and I told him a little about my suffering. I was amazed when he didn't take a step towards me. He explained to me, very dearly, that I had decided in favor of this man, that he was a nice person and now it's about making something good - the best of it.

....Familienglück im 'neuen' Eigenheim in der Ostschweiz - Trautes Heim - Glück allein..Family happiness in the 'new' home in Eastern Switzerland - home sweet home - happiness alone....

Family happiness in the 'new' home in Eastern Switzerland - home sweet home - happiness alone

So I came back to Switzerland and decided, with God's help, to make something good out of it. And it turned out very well too! Not always easy, but the work has paid off (and still pays). You can choose between love and happiness.

Now I am very happy that Ernst persuaded me to take this privilege of writing to you ...

Then I remember the song I wrote for him. So it goes on:

"He made my life complete. He brought me happiness,
and every time I said "I can't!" He made me do my best. "

He added to my life and brought me joy

and every time I said

"I can't do that, he made me do my best."

Apparently that impressed me about him even then. Yes, marriage - and any relationship you take SERIOUSLY(=Ernst) - is a school. Fortunately, most relationships are voluntary. The only question is whether we want to learn something. DO YOU WANT THE SAME ?

In any case, he was right again in this case: I even noticed that I could write more. :-)

I wish you a wonderful week. See you the Wednesday after next; then with the topic FROM WOMAN TO MAN.

....Da fällt mir noch ein Lied ein : " If God gave me the chance to do it all again, I'd choose you again.".. Then another song comes to mind: "If God gave me the chance to do it all again, I'd choose you again."....

Then another song comes to mind: "If God gave me the chance to do it all again, I'd choose you again."

Book recommendation: LOVE & RESPECT by Emerson Eggerichs

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