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Dealing With Change

....Wie allgemein bekannt: Das Chamäleon ist ein Meister, wenn es um die Anpassung an die Umgebung geht. Einmalig. Uns Menschen fällt es nicht immer so leicht, uns neuen Herausforderungen und ändernden Lebensumständen anzupassen...As everyone knows,…

As everyone knows, the chameleon is a master when it comes to adapting to its surroundings. Unique. It is not always so easy for us humans to adapt to new challenges and changing living conditions.

What Does Change Mean?

Change is a part of life. They are inevitable. Without them, all the development opportunities and growth would not be possible. Why is it that we still often feel uncomfortable about them?

Life is change

We cannot not change!

Something is always going on in all of our lives. We don't always think, feel and act in the same way. As long as our mind is vigilant, we automatically perceive changes, the HSPs (LINK) more naturally. If we look out the window, we can see that today is a different weather than yesterday. The seasons, the fashion, the social trends, the technology of the cars, everything does not stand still, but is subject to constant change.

Without change there would be no further development

The consequence is that it is a great advantage for us if we learn - as early as possible - to deal constructively with changes.

Change Is An Opportunity

Usually behind every change there is an opportunity for improvement. It can be better afterwards, but it can also be worse. And that's exactly what we want to learn to avoid with this blog!

So what matters is what we do in such a situation. However, we always have the choice to suffer and complain about a change, but we can also, as optimists (LINK), be interested in the opportunities and possibilities that are offered.

Living self-confidently means initiating changes yourself! Wow!

....Veränderungen können in verschiedene Richtungen verlaufen. Wichtig ist, dass man sich bewusst ist, welche Richtung für sich selbst die richtige ist!!..Changes can go in different directions. It is important that you are aware of which direction …

Changes can go in different directions. It is important that you are aware of which direction is the right one for yourself!

This makes change an instrument for actively shaping one's life. It's about YOUR own life! As soon as we want to change something in our life, we have a positive attitude towards change. Excellent!

The Unknown Often Scares Us

Changes automatically challenge us because new things come our way. We have to learn to deal with that. New things seem threatening to some, because they cannot yet assess the possible dangers and inconveniences associated with it. Every temperament (LINK) reacts differently.

We can act consciously against any skepticism that may arise and deal more with the positive aspects of a change than with uncertainties that may occur but are often overemphasized in fearful people.

Our skepticism or fear about change is perfectly natural because it ensures our survival. We just mustn't allow ourselves to be dominated by these impulses.

The more we know about change processes, the easier it will be for us to use them to our advantage.

Action <=> Reaction

Instead of acting, we often have to react. Why? Because we often wait so long.

Many people feel like a pawn in their environment. You experience yourself as externally controlled. Society, employers and the surrounding area are also perceived as more active and more change-friendly. This strengthens one's own comfort and passivity (see PHLEGMATIC).

....Gerade Kleinkinder verlangen von uns sofortige Reaktionen. Sie verändern sich laufend. Es gibt keine Ruhe - ausser Nachtruhe - das Leben mit Kindern fordert heraus und verlangt dauernde Veränderungen...Small children in particular demand immedia…

Small children in particular demand immediate reactions from us. They are constantly changing. There is no rest - except for a good night's sleep - life with children is challenging and requires constant change.

So we only become active ourselves when there is no other way; when external pressure forces you to act.

It's easy to forget that we already have a choice, but it's too easy to miss it.

They feel that all they can do is react to what is happening around them. Such people think that change is always coming from the outside and there is nothing you can do but respond to it.

In reality, however, we could very well have changed the situation ourselves.

Example: Termination

Let's assume you are sitting at your desk and suddenly a colleague comes in and tells you that you should come to the boss, please. There, your supervisor will tell you in the presence of the authorized signatory that the company regrets it very much, but that they unfortunately have to part with you as an employee. You will be terminated at the next possible date.

A stroke of fate? A change completely out of the blue? And you couldn't see it at all? Is it really like that?

....Manchmal ist es fünf vor zwölf und wir merken es gar nicht. Höchste Zeit aufzuwachen! Manchmal ist es ratsam, nicht nur seine, sondern auch die Uhr eines guten Freundes anzuschauen...Sometimes it's five to twelve and we don't even notice. High t…

Sometimes it's five to twelve and we don't even notice. High time to wake up! Sometimes it is advisable to look not only at his watch but also at that of a good friend.

Recognize the omens and draw the consequences

Almost all changes have omens. In the example above, it could possibly have been poor company results, outsourcing, or other restructuring.

The only thing that matters is whether we perceive these signs and then act accordingly.

As a rule, we have a lot of possibilities to see in which direction something is going. We just need to open our eyes, actively seek to get the important information, and then deal with it appropriately.

In this way you can shape your own life and bring about a self-chosen and beneficial change for you (e.g. looking for a better job in good time). And that before you can only react to changes from outside (the termination).

Recognize Signs In Good Time

Almost all changes have omens. In the above example of a termination, it could be poor company results, outsourcing or other restructuring.

The only thing that matters is whether we perceive these signs and then act accordingly. As a rule, there are many ways to tell the direction in which something is going. We just need to open our eyes and actively seek to get the important information and then react accordingly.

In this way, you can shape your own life and bring about a change that is of your own choosing and that is beneficial to you (e.g. looking for a better job in good time) and this before you have to react to a termination - from outside.

But if we ignore all signs and hope that everything stays the same, the moment will come at some point when the change - in the example the termination - actually hits us like a stroke of fate to which we can only react. Then we quickly feel overwhelmed, helpless and insecure.

....Die heutige Medienwelt ist voll von Informationen, die uns teilweise angenehm erscheinen, aber auch voll von überfordernden Mitteilungen, die uns unsicher machen können und die Angst vor Veränderungen und selbstbewusstem Vorgehen vergrössern...T…

Today's media world is full of information that sometimes seems pleasant to us, but also full of overwhelming messages that can make us insecure and increase the fear of change and self-confident approach.

Choose Change Yourself

You feel completely different when you consciously perceive the signals. Recognizing small signals can help initiate changes yourself.

Instead of REACTION there will be ACTION. I control my approach. This can prevent extremely unpleasant situations.

Example Health

Such a time comes when we notice small signs of health problems. At the latest then it is worthwhile to know the most important health principles (LINK) and to implement them immediately. Many could thus protect themselves from medical intervention and unhealthy medication.

The question. whether you should change anything in the way you live is a very important question. If this topic is not taken seriously enough, then a so-called “stroke of fate” is more and more likely. It can then be called CANCER, surgery, medication, etc. Too bad. One could have prevented, for example, if one had adhered to these most important health rules: NEWSTART PLUS.

....Viele Menschen scheuen Veränderungen so sehr, dass sie auch gesundheitliche Nachteile in Kauf nehmen. Dabei könnten viele mit einer Lebensstil-Anpassung ihre Gesundheit auch ohne Medikamente signifikant verbessern - dies ist eine Erfahrung, die …

Many people shy away from changes so much that they also accept health disadvantages. Many of them could significantly improve their health even without medication with a lifestyle adjustment - this is an experience that we are able to make on an ongoing basis in our Sonnmatt health center.

Finally, a few suggestions for topics where a situation analysis is most appropriate:

Foresee Change

Take your time to think about where changes in your life might be expected or necessary:

  • at the workplace / in the company

  • in partnership

  • regarding your health

  • own satisfaction and well-being

  • in terms of financial security

  • regarding personal growth and development

  • in questions of future planning

  • or are there other important areas?

TIP:

Make it a habit to keep thinking about where you could actively change something yourself. In the way you think it is smart and wise not to fall into a "trap".

Improve EQ in Everyday Life

....JEDER kann etwas einbringen, das zum Allgemeinwohl beitragen kann. Wie geht das ?..EVERYONE can contribute something that can support something to the common good. How does it work ?....

EVERYONE can contribute something that can support something to the common good. How does it work ?

Perhaps you, dear reader, have already read the previously published blogs on EQ. The following links are recommended for new readers:

EQ0-Definition - EQ0-AreasOfLive - EQ1-Marriage and Family - EQ2-Job - EQ3-Health

As a reminder: The five areas of social life:

  1. MARRIAGE u FAMILY (mutual understanding based on self-image)

  2. PROFESSION (dealing with colleagues, subordinates, with the boss, motivation)

  3. HEALTH (healthy lifestyle promotes frontal lobe development)

  4. ENVIRONMENT (privacy, public and society can see added value)

  5. SPIRITUALITY (understanding and dealing with belief in a postmodern context)

4. High EQ in my Social Environment

Three examples

  1. There may be your neighbor who is just difficult to get along with. He doesn't say hello, runs over you with exaggerated ramblings and lets himself be carried away to inappropriate, even untrue comments. How can you help him?

  2. There's the church member, a woman in her sixties. She acts dominant and disrespectful, although she actually has nothing profitable to say. And that for 12 years. Can you turn it off somehow ?

  3. There is our choir director. A great guy. Whatever he says has hands and feet. His sayings reveal wisdom and social intelligence. Incredible his empathy with which he can tune us into our songs and sensitize us. He is loved by everyone. Where did he get this gift from?

....Klassische Musik hat normalerweise einen erwiesenermassen positiven Einfluss auf unser Gehirn, unsere Gefühlswelt und unsere Balance. Wer das Vorrecht hat ein Instrument zu spielen, möglichst schon im Kindesalter, der hat prinzipielle Vorteile..…

Classical music usually has a proven positive influence on our brain, our emotional world and our balance. Anyone who has the privilege of playing an instrument, if possible from an early age, has fundamental advantages.

Bringing in feelings is not a problem if they are balanced and do not go overboard. In a social context, reason and feelings are important. If they are lived in balance, this promotes community among people. Such people are valued by everyone else. A wise person betrays himself through his social intelligence. What do you mean with that?

Empathy + Social Skills = Social Intelligence

Daniel Goleman says that social intelligence is an important interpersonal part of emotional intelligence.

This interpersonal intelligence can be seen, for example, in the following skills:

  • Organize groups

  • Influence group activities

  • Willingness, leadership and thus responsibility

  • Being able to inspire and motivate others about something

  • Bringing solutions into a process

  • Negotiating, mediating or preventing conflicts

  • Being able to establish a personal connection with outsiders

  • Perceiving and understanding feelings, motives and worries of others (social analysis)


Outsider

People who have poorly developed these skills or who have not developed these skills are prone to interpersonal problems, appear uncomfortable and can easily be labeled as outsiders by society. It often happens that such individuals are oblivious to a group's emotional agenda and tend to take a lot of self-attention. To the chagrin of group development. Or they hide wherever they can.

....Manchmal ist es notwendig, nicht mit dem Strom zu fliessen. Nämlich dann, wenn der Strom in die falsche Richtung unterwegs ist. Unsere Weltsituation zeigt, dass man sich nicht auf die Mehrheit verlassen kann. Ein emotional intelligenter, weiser …

Sometimes it is necessary not to go with the current flow. Namely when the flow is traveling in the wrong direction. Our world situation shows that one cannot rely on the majority. An emotionally intelligent, wise person feels when he has to leave the majority and when not.

Social Chameleons

These people are adept at adapting their feelings to the needs of the group, as we often do with actors, salespeople, diplomats and politicians, but they cannot find the balance between their own needs and feelings. You have not developed your own identity or it is underdeveloped. They are dependent and have hardly any integrity in their backpack.

....Chamäleone stehen wegen Gefährdung unter Tierschutz. Sie sind meist Leguan-Schuppenechsen und leben hauptsächlich in Afrika. Sie haben interessante Vorteile: Ihre Augen können nach hinten, seitlich und nach vorne gleichzeitig blicken, was symbol…

Chameleons are under animal welfare because they are endangered. They are mostly iguana-scale lizards and live mainly in Africa. They have interesting advantages: Their eyes can look back, to the side and to the front at the same time, which symbolically can be interpreted as a foresight into the past, present and future. This is an important skill for EQ enthusiasts.

A lack of social intelligence can also show up as follows:

  • reduced willingness to trust someone

  • own area of responsibility is neglected

  • Tendency to be wrong

  • ruthlessness

  • Selfish lifestyle, no willingness to serve

  • Dogmatic inflexibility, even fanaticism and extremism

  • general learning disabilities

  • proud personality structure

Social competence, on the other hand, is shown as follows:

  • social harmony - peacemaker

  • Interest in efficiency (profitability) and effectiveness (efficacy)

  • Tolerant attitude

  • Good warning and admonition skills

  • Interest in learning processes

  • Good service provider

  • humble personality structure

....Die Steigerung von MUT ist DEMUT. Diese Grundhaltung ist heutzutage leider nicht mehr so bekannt. Sie verändert Menschen und macht sie zu weisen, weitsichtigen und glücklichen Menschen. Haben Sie MUT zur DEMUT...“An honest heart bears fruit in h…

“An honest heart bears fruit in humility”

The increase in COURAGE is HUMILITY. Unfortunately, this attitude is not so well known these days. It changes people and makes them wise, far-sighted, and happy people. Have the COURAGE for HUMILITY.

Some Tips

  1. Become aware of where you still have learning fields and development potential in everyday social life.

  2. Decide to improve one and / or the other finding.

  3. Learn to limit yourself to the factual and informational level in a discussion and to exclude the personal character level (communication is important).

  4. Observe your own reactions and find any hidden fears that have led you to unwise words or deeds. Consciously replace these fears with loving motives and remember this. A reminder a day or week will help you make this a habit.

  5. Take an interest in those around you, especially difficult people. Personal interest in their needs sooner or later makes them friends.

  6. Try to stay in balance, not to apply unnecessary pressure, to integrate the situation and the needs of a thing and / or person as possible.

  7. Active listening enables you to show respect for those involved.

    Do not forget:

With a healthy lifestyle, especially with NEWSTART PLUS ® (LINK), you promote your performance and willpower in implementing such resolutions.

Important cornerstones are:

  • 1.5 - 2 liters of water per day

  • Jog 2-3 times a week

  • a lot of vegetable and wholesome food as unrefined as possible

....Veränderungen lassen sich am besten durchsetzen, wenn sie in einem gesundheitlichen Kontext erfolgen. Dadurch wird der Frontallappen (LINK) gestärkt, was neues Potenzial entstehen lässt. Nutzen Sie diese Chance...Changes are best enforced when t…

Changes are best enforced when they are made in a health context. This strengthens the frontal lobe (LINK), which creates new potential. Take this chance.

I wish you success! :-)

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