EVERYONE can contribute something that can support something to the common good. How does it work ?
Perhaps you, dear reader, have already read the previously published blogs on EQ. The following links are recommended for new readers:
EQ0-Definition - EQ0-AreasOfLive - EQ1-Marriage and Family - EQ2-Job - EQ3-Health
As a reminder: The five areas of social life:
MARRIAGE u FAMILY (mutual understanding based on self-image)
PROFESSION (dealing with colleagues, subordinates, with the boss, motivation)
HEALTH (healthy lifestyle promotes frontal lobe development)
ENVIRONMENT (privacy, public and society can see added value)
SPIRITUALITY (understanding and dealing with belief in a postmodern context)
4. High EQ in my Social Environment
Three examples
There may be your neighbor who is just difficult to get along with. He doesn't say hello, runs over you with exaggerated ramblings and lets himself be carried away to inappropriate, even untrue comments. How can you help him?
There's the church member, a woman in her sixties. She acts dominant and disrespectful, although she actually has nothing profitable to say. And that for 12 years. Can you turn it off somehow ?
There is our choir director. A great guy. Whatever he says has hands and feet. His sayings reveal wisdom and social intelligence. Incredible his empathy with which he can tune us into our songs and sensitize us. He is loved by everyone. Where did he get this gift from?
Classical music usually has a proven positive influence on our brain, our emotional world and our balance. Anyone who has the privilege of playing an instrument, if possible from an early age, has fundamental advantages.
Bringing in feelings is not a problem if they are balanced and do not go overboard. In a social context, reason and feelings are important. If they are lived in balance, this promotes community among people. Such people are valued by everyone else. A wise person betrays himself through his social intelligence. What do you mean with that?
Empathy + Social Skills = Social Intelligence
Daniel Goleman says that social intelligence is an important interpersonal part of emotional intelligence.
This interpersonal intelligence can be seen, for example, in the following skills:
Organize groups
Influence group activities
Willingness, leadership and thus responsibility
Being able to inspire and motivate others about something
Bringing solutions into a process
Negotiating, mediating or preventing conflicts
Being able to establish a personal connection with outsiders
Perceiving and understanding feelings, motives and worries of others (social analysis)
Outsider
People who have poorly developed these skills or who have not developed these skills are prone to interpersonal problems, appear uncomfortable and can easily be labeled as outsiders by society. It often happens that such individuals are oblivious to a group's emotional agenda and tend to take a lot of self-attention. To the chagrin of group development. Or they hide wherever they can.
Sometimes it is necessary not to go with the current flow. Namely when the flow is traveling in the wrong direction. Our world situation shows that one cannot rely on the majority. An emotionally intelligent, wise person feels when he has to leave the majority and when not.
Social Chameleons
These people are adept at adapting their feelings to the needs of the group, as we often do with actors, salespeople, diplomats and politicians, but they cannot find the balance between their own needs and feelings. You have not developed your own identity or it is underdeveloped. They are dependent and have hardly any integrity in their backpack.
Chameleons are under animal welfare because they are endangered. They are mostly iguana-scale lizards and live mainly in Africa. They have interesting advantages: Their eyes can look back, to the side and to the front at the same time, which symbolically can be interpreted as a foresight into the past, present and future. This is an important skill for EQ enthusiasts.
A lack of social intelligence can also show up as follows:
reduced willingness to trust someone
own area of responsibility is neglected
Tendency to be wrong
ruthlessness
Selfish lifestyle, no willingness to serve
Dogmatic inflexibility, even fanaticism and extremism
general learning disabilities
proud personality structure
Social competence, on the other hand, is shown as follows:
social harmony - peacemaker
Interest in efficiency (profitability) and effectiveness (efficacy)
Tolerant attitude
Good warning and admonition skills
Interest in learning processes
Good service provider
humble personality structure
“An honest heart bears fruit in humility”
The increase in COURAGE is HUMILITY. Unfortunately, this attitude is not so well known these days. It changes people and makes them wise, far-sighted, and happy people. Have the COURAGE for HUMILITY.
Some Tips
Become aware of where you still have learning fields and development potential in everyday social life.
Decide to improve one and / or the other finding.
Learn to limit yourself to the factual and informational level in a discussion and to exclude the personal character level (communication is important).
Observe your own reactions and find any hidden fears that have led you to unwise words or deeds. Consciously replace these fears with loving motives and remember this. A reminder a day or week will help you make this a habit.
Take an interest in those around you, especially difficult people. Personal interest in their needs sooner or later makes them friends.
Try to stay in balance, not to apply unnecessary pressure, to integrate the situation and the needs of a thing and / or person as possible.
Active listening enables you to show respect for those involved.
Do not forget:
With a healthy lifestyle, especially with NEWSTART PLUS ® (LINK), you promote your performance and willpower in implementing such resolutions.
Important cornerstones are:
1.5 - 2 liters of water per day
Jog 2-3 times a week
a lot of vegetable and wholesome food as unrefined as possible
Changes are best enforced when they are made in a health context. This strengthens the frontal lobe (LINK), which creates new potential. Take this chance.
