Sometimes I wonder why I reacted like that _ and who I actually am.
As you probably know, there are stark forms of self-loathing. These include self-destructive forms such as anorexia, bulimia or borderline disorders (scratching oneself) ...
What I would prefer to address at this point are the everyday methods that are often traditionally accepted and strain our happiness without our perhaps being aware of it. These can include: smoking, drinking alcohol, too little exercise, which can lead to obesity, social incompetence, which leads to unhappy relationships, etc.
Those who do not like others can run away, those who do not like themselves cannot!
Definition of self-hatred
Self-hatred refers to forms of self-rejection and self-contempt. This goes hand in hand with self-harming behavior, consciously or unconsciously.
This makes it clear that self-hatred is an emotion directed against oneself, based on a lack of self-confidence and self (respect) or fear and inner tension. Often the relationship to one's own being, including the body, soul and spirit, has been disturbed, unfortunately mostly in childhood. Thus, hatred, anger, frustration, and aggression can easily affect social relationships. Too bad.
The human tendency to choose what brings the greatest profit, gain in pleasure, money and power, this tendency has plunged so many dear people into misery.
Just eating what you like without considering whether it will have a destructive effect on my body is kind of irrational, isn't it?
Just thinking like that, regardless of whether it will cause damage sooner or later, is somehow insufficient, isn't it?
Simply allowing feelings that destroy me or others, increase my fears and want to rob me of my quality of love and life, that is somehow illogical, actually stupid, or what do you think?
It is a characteristic of high emotional intelligence to live not only for the moment, but from the past for a responsible future.
The opposite of self-hatred is self-love.
Since self-hatred has been learned, one can also learn to love oneself better. This path from self-denial to self-acceptance is a path that takes patience and a decision that should not be easily overturned. Because that is where the real happiness of life really begins.
Accepting oneself holistically despite weaknesses is probably one of the most mature decisions a person can make.
Imagine a person who is bursting with self-acceptance who does nothing to harm him / her. Who just tries to keep an eye on what is good for body, soul and spirit. A person who can make reasonable decisions because he has noticed what is a real gain for him / her. Isn't that a totally sane idea? Don't you want to move in that direction too? So totally positive, learn to say NO to destructive temptations. That could also be Swiss chocolate!
As I said, there is a path and you don't get there straight away. But the quality of life will increase immediately. When it comes to food, for example, you sometimes don't notice it right away. Many people are only presented with the bill for their lifestyle after 5-20 years. Often times, an immediate correction can prevent the worst, but most of the time a severe loss of freedom is the consequence.
Those who are at peace with themselves are open to other people. "He who loves other people loves himself," said Paul.
There would be a lot to write about self-hatred and self-love.
What is certain is that it helps when you meet someone who likes you, even loves you. Someone who knows and has experienced what real love is. This is a great help on the way to balance.
Hopefully you have that privilege too. Some have to limit themselves to their cat or dog. For me, my marriage and family are probably the strongest signals of love that can come from people. But I have seen that there is much more. Imagine someone who wants to do everything for you, who wants to help you in all your challenges, who knows you so well that he knows what is best for you.
What a privilege to have such a lovely family. Thank God.
If you have access to the Christian faith, then I can highly recommend you to look at the life of this JESUS again. Let us show you what dimensions LOVE has, what LOVE can really do and how healing it is to encounter such a deep interest in yourself. There is no real argument against real LOVE. Do not miss that. The Gospel chapters in Matthew 25-28, Mark 12-16, Luke 20-24 and John 16-21 lead into this depth of love, which has divine dimensions and therefore has the greatest healing potential. Happy the person who can accept this offer.
Love has different components. Part of it is unconditional love.
Unconditional love is like dynamite
is like water for someone dying of thirst
like an apple to a starving man
this love is like running on an early morning beach where the sun, sea and landscape warm and hug you.
More about that later.
