Understand the man's world - certainly unique - interesting - rewarding - and not impossible!
Dear Lady - Reader
if I allow myself to address a few words to you and to the ladies in general, then it happens with a somewhat queasy feeling. Because how am I supposed to be able to represent the whole men. Not possible. How about a little insight anyway:
First of all, I have to ask for your understanding for us men, as we did not find the best conditions in society and culture that would have made us really strong, responsible, incorruptible and purposeful men. And if it is still successful, then it is thanks to the respective mothers and fathers who did not go along with these postmodern trends, but instead incorporated deep Christian values into their upbringing.
Nevertheless, there are many men who strive, contrary to every fashion trend, to get on the track of the real values of a family, a marriage, a happy community. Such men differ from those who unfortunately mostly make their women unhappy with a low level of empathy and often not consciously and deliberately.
Carefully explore your partner's potential and sensitivity.
It corresponds to a tendency of men that they have a tendency towards generosity, understanding and kindness. They are instinctively ready to 'die' for their wives and children - let's just think of a ship disaster where the women and children would be saved first ...
Men have the quality of being cognitively gifted. This means that the left hemisphere of the brain has to be supplied with more blood, while the right, emotionally charged side is less developed. Each side has its strength and importance. The cognitive, abstract, rational side should give an advantage when it comes to decisions, e.g. which car should we buy or which house should we buy etc.
Men want to be 'cool'. Keep in mind that a lot of guys are willing to buy pants that don't cover what it's meant to be just to be cool. Not what is beautiful is fashion, but what is fashion is beautiful! Let's just think of today's holey jeans, which are also worn by women! Be that as it may - we men sacrifice a lot in order to gain acceptance and the necessary respect.
Excessive willingness to take risks speaks against itself. Performance is important in our performance society. Try to appreciate it in a balanced way
Acceptance:
Actually, acceptance is important for everyone. But for us men this is extremely important, as our position (status) within society is an essential issue. We want to build good foundations for a family with training, career and further education. Most of the time, the parents exert appropriate pressure so that their son can withstand the demands of society. Then the purchase of the first car, as early as possible, so that one can be 'in'. Without the necessary appreciation, a boy degenerates into insignificance. It could be the wrong job, the wrong partner, problematic decisions up to an addiction to pleasure or drug use of all kinds. It's a shame.
Respect:
Before a man can get the respect he needs, he has to make huge investments. Many men never get the attention they deserve. Unfortunately. That weakens the whole society. Without the basis of respect, men lose their hold and cannot reach their potential.
If you are in a relationship, then I can really advise you to be smart about this because there is the highest potential. Attention and respect is the name of the code word that releases strength and energy in men, which helps women and families to develop positively.
The honor guard - discipline, performance, commitment, commitment, but also respect. Remember, not all men are created equal!
How can you behave respectfully as a woman?
If you do your research on this, you won't have insoluble problems with the male world. Here are a few examples that should work most of the time:
Ask your husband the questions that are important to you.
Mirror your own reactions. Words can hurt a lot without you wanting to and noticing it yourself. Many women do not question what effect their emotional outbursts and nagging have on the man. This extremely unfavorable behavior leads to the construction of the wall for most men. You have to protect yourself. They either flee or start to ignore. That is not a good thing and it ultimately leads to a dead end - to use a nice word.
If you feel that something has gone wrong, immediately seek contact and consensus so that the wall does not go up. The men tend to approach you less often. Unfortunately.
Give your husband enough responsibility sometimes even when you think you would be better at it. Use your sensitivity to collect important points here.
Let the father be important, help develop a mature father image, in all of the important decision-making processes and responsibilities in parenting. If the fathers are interested, then it can result in great teamwork. Together we are strong, stronger than any spoiled child.
Many men can do more than they are expected to be if only encouraged and encouraged.
Tip: Don't let your husband see his mother in you! There is a natural tendency for the man, based on his early programmed soul system, to choose the woman who will remind him of his mother. That may still be good. But many mothers are too caring and have missed leading their son into mature self-employment. In this case, the man does not need to be pampered, but a mature affection that lets him catch up on what has been missed. In your own interest, it is sometimes worth investing here.
In any case, appreciate what your partner brings to the relationship and encourage them. We all need this!
