To understand the world of women, their worries and joys, challenges and fears better and better and to react to them in balance, isn't that one of the most important and instructive tasks for us men?
Before we get into the ladies, let me briefly talk about us men.
Our male world
At the age of 60, the look back into our men's world looks a little different than at the age of 30. What strikes me is the change in social norms. It has changed considerably since the 1960s. The then ailing patriarchal system was changed more and more through emancipation into a tendency towards matriarchy. In most countries we are not yet where the Swedes have already arrived. But the path is often already paved.
If you look at the many blended families, the mothers who raise their children on their own and mostly have to work, then at some point the question arises: WHERE DID THE MEN STAY? How is it that they just run away and leave their wife and child to their fate. That is not possible!
Men what's up What values are left that enable a family to survive even in difficult times? Is it the lure of pornography that destroys the ability of men to love and turns women into an object instead of a subject, thereby displacing real love?
What could be the reasons for these deficits? In neglected education for the willingness and sensitivity of young male children and adolescents to take responsibility. They hardly have any good role models anymore.
The world is open to our young men. But in which direction should it go? You need good role models!
It cannot be that we simply hand over our responsibility to the ladies, who have already had enough of it. Each gender has enough responsibilities. We just have to recognize them and take them seriously.
Well-functioning families are wanted. Families where the role of father and mother is lived and responsibility is taken.
Real men don't have time to concern themselves with other women because they are busy finding new ways and methods to show their love for their wives! Dale Partridge
Nice theory, isn't it? This indicates the right direction. Now to the ladies.
Women's needs
As a reader, what would you list when it comes to women's needs? Do you agree with
Security, money, romance, home, girlfriends ?
Interlocutor, listener, understanding ?
Pleasure, laughter, jokes ?
determined, successful, loyal and responsible man ?
Please share your thoughts and experiences with us.
Romance is sure to be an important need too. (See the Blogs on the subject!)
Based on the words of Paul in the letter to the Ephesians, the greatest and deepest need of wives is the declarations of love through us husbands (Eph 5:33). If we decide on a woman to invite her on the path of life with us, and she says YES, then from that moment on she is and will remain the most important person on earth for us.
How can we men show our love for our women?
How do you do that How could that be done? Or to put it another way: What does it mean to love your wife with all your heart and soul? Difficult question, isn't it? Perhaps you have been married for over 10 years and don't really know how to answer this question.
Most women don't expect roses, handbags, or shoes. You hope for the most valuable thing we have:
Our attention and our heart.
Attention at the right moment reflects the love quality of a relationship.
We will go into the 5 love languages separately. These also play an important role in this context.
Our attention:
It is important for a woman to be important to her partner. She measures this by the quality of the attention a man pays her. Ignoring her, not taking her seriously, not listening to her, disregarding her, pressing down on her, punishing her as if she were still a child, that is counterproductive.
Whether or not they have this natural ability does not matter. As soon as you have made up your mind, you must try to live up to this responsibility - by all possible means, seeking advice, preferably with prayer. The stronger you want this, the faster you will be successful. Your wife will 'repay' you a thousandfold.
Working together on this shape of the heart, bringing it to maturity with a lot of forgiveness and benevolence, appreciation and devotion, that leads to the highest quality of life.
Our heart:
Women are highly sensitive when it comes to reading our heartbeats from our actions and reactions. They know before we know how things are going. You can't pretend to a woman. Authenticity is required. That is convincing. That works wonders.
Well, the male heart is often wavering and volatile. It's easy to get distracted. It is an act of love when you set your goal to focus your heart wholeheartedly on the most important person, your wife, undivided, without compromise. Not just today, but also tomorrow and the day after tomorrow.
BRAVO for the man who is willing to do it. He will be rewarded many times for this.
'Cause understanding unconditional love
despite irritating feelings,
Lust for revenge or retribution,
wanting to justify and then
but the humble sentence
'Sorry my Darling'
Bringing it over the lips leads to new dimensions in a mature relationship.
God's love is also unconditional, so we too can practice it and be successful.
A man is as much a man as he can be guilty of. Is our shoulder big enough that it could sometimes be the fault of others ???
'Sorry honey, I didn't really want to go that high.'
If we weren't so proud and selfish, most relationship problems could be resolved within five minutes! EGW
Book recommendation: LOVE & RESPECT Emmerson Eggerichs
Do you have any questions or comments?
