Compassion makes you happy

How nice is the feeling of being understood by others! Solving conflicts with compassion helps our quality of life.

What is compassion?

Compassion must have something to do with FEELING, a feeling for others and to share with others.

Synonyms are:

Compassion - feeling condolences - empathy - sensitivity for others - feeling compassion - feeling - feeling sorry for someone - showing tact and understanding - actually feeling sympathy and empathy for others.

Wikipedia says that this includes the ability to respond appropriately to other people's feelings. This can be done, for example, with pity, expressing mourning and possibly willingness to help.

It is interesting that the basis of compassion - or empathy - is self-awareness. This means that the better and more openly a person is able to deal with their own emotions, the better they can interpret the feelings of others and react constructively to them.

What compassion is NOT:

Indifference - cold-heartedness - hard-heartedness or heartlessness.

Since we also know such reactions in our society, we have to admit that compassion can be a hot topic, which can often lead to conflicts. If there are - often also unconsciously - fears

associated with us that cause such feelings of rejection, it can lead to destructive reactions.

Self-awareness as a basic competence

Da die Selbstwahrnehmung ein so wichtiges Element für unser Mitgefühl ist, scheint es angebracht, darüber einige Gedanken zu machen.

Since self-awareness is such an important element in our compassion, it seems worthwhile to think about it.

Self-awareness, i.e. the perception of myself, is essential for the formation of self-confidence. This leads to an understanding of the external perception, i.e. the perception of another person. The sum of these self-perceptions forms our self-image. Our self-esteem (BLOG) is of course closely connected with this.

Our senses combined with information from the environment shape our understanding of ourselves and form our self-image into adulthood. However, this can change far into old age and hopefully develop positively.

Our understanding of our body (structure and functions) leads to our body image. This can lead to disruptions, even distortion, denial or repression, and thus self-deception, which can lead to diseases such as anorexia and excessive sense of shame, for example, because of unreached images. Social incompetence is then associated with this.

It is therefore understandable that love, which leads to self-love, is an extremely important element, where every responsible person - parents and educators - has to be smart in order to implant this love in their counterpart. (see blog about Love Languages)

Good role models are important

Each of them has role models. If they are good, we benefit from them. If they are close to us, then our love tank can stay full. But unfortunately there are many children - I experience this again and again when teaching - who are insufficiently loved and therefore show fearful reactions that sometimes indicate a lot of inner aggressions.

It is astonishing which ’mountains’ you can climb with children if you raise them properly, treat them with compassion and love. The more their love tank is filled, the stronger and more mature they will be in life.

How can we fill our love tank?

Where did you, dear reader, find a source of love? In your life partner? In your best friend? How do you fill your love tank? Is it perhaps a tendency to enjoyment (addiction) that has crept in, or a flight into a media world where some dopamine (happiness hormone) is to be expected? (BLOG)

My role model

My own role model is JESUS himself. I immediately feel accepted by HIM. He also accepts me with my mistakes. And He always surprises me with the care and love He shows me every day.

The idea that Jesus always had the power to defend himself leads to a deeper understanding of the compassion he mjust have had for us: He really wanted to give us all a chance to be saved.

What we can learn from JESUS

Those who have the privilege to read and study the stories of Jesus in the Gospels already have access to His kind of compassion and love.

No wonder many people have always followed Him. With Him they could fill up their love tank. Jesus had deep compassion and feelings for those around him. He immediately recognized their needs and desires. He knew that they were afraid and without orientation, like sheep without a shepherd.

Countless times it drove Him to heal their physical and mental injuries, to forgive their sins and to strengthen their hearts and heal illnesses. His touch alone brought healing. No injury was stronger than He could handle. His compassion led Him to countless deeds and also words with which He wanted to make God's love understandable to His fellow men.

Compassion in conflicts

Jesus' relationship with Jewish authorities was somewhat complex. He took time for the Pharisee Nicodemus (Joh 3), He healed the daughter of the synagogue leader Jairus (Mk 5) and He was often invited to eat with the Pharisees (Lk 7 & 14). They all needed His love, His compassion. Still, they followed Him at every turn and set traps to outsmart Him with crafty questions.

He wept over the Jewish leaders (Mt 23). His compassion was unprecedented, despite challenges and conflicts. His offer of grace had no limits.

Finding your way around in today's world is a major challenge for most people. The information overload prevents many from finding their meaning in life. Distraction here and there. What do I actually want? Isn't it love, real love that interests me? Even find a source of love? I want to understand better what our short life is all about. This is exactly where JESUS helps us.

The love of Jesus

Jesus' mindset (Phil 2) and His thinking and attitudes show his selfless love that made him willing to die even for us. He let himself be humiliated to death without defending himself. How great must His love for us, for you, for me have been! That is the love that I need in my life. It leads to the highest quality of life. It enables you to live a life with the most mature compassion, for the blessing of the environment.

Jesus makes an offer to all of us. He opens His source of love to us and wants to make it a reality in our lives. How can this happen?

Growing in Christ

Through his death on the cross, Jesus triumphed over the power of evil. The enemy's powers can be overcome by HIM. If we strengthen our relationship with Him, He can also share with us His victory over evil. Through this we will receive His peace, joy and assurance of His love. What a quality of compassion can be expected!

The Holy Spirit then dwells in us and gives us strength every day. This frees us from all of our legacy problems. Our life gains meaning and quality of life.

If we cultivate this relationship with Christ on a daily basis, then our fears are replaced by love, more and more every day. Through community care in prayer, in his word, in devotion and thinking about his presence and guidance, we experience happiness, a joy of life that we never want to exchange.

Our whole environment will notice that we have a full love tank that extends to our surroundings. Our social fears turn into compassion and sympathy. Our self-competence and social competence, called EQ (BLOG), will increase and become a blessing for everyone around us.

The Bible speaks of a fruit that then shows itself. In Galatians chapter 5: 22-23 we read about this fruit:
But the fruit of the spirit is:

LOVE, JOY, PEACE, PATIENCE, FRIENDLINESS, GOODNESS, FAITHFULNESS, GENTLENESS, SELF-CONTROL

Which of these quality features would you like to have yourself? Select 3 of them.

The good news is: since this is not several fruit but one fruit, you will receive all of these gifts at the same time. Isn't that a sensational offer?

Knowing yourself loved conveys new powers. Feeling like a child of God and being cared for and guided by JESUS gives deep joy and strength to bear all the daily burdens. With HIM new worlds of relationships open up. Suddenly I can deal with difficult people and situations much better. Thank God.

All we can do is to spend time with Jesus, get to know Him better, choose Him and open our hearts to Him so that we can plant these qualities.

If I can support you, I would be very happy to do so. You can contact me at any time. (ernst.zwiker@yahoo.com)

May our dear Lord bless you

Three Things We Need

One might think money must be one of them, right? But we’re not talking about external, but internal values. These three things are more important than anything else because they can produce everything else we need!!

Understanding Cause and Effect

Our post-modern lifestyle does not lend itself to reflection. As we unlearn the art of reflecting on our daily lives, we see less and less behind the curtain. Who really thinks about the reasons why we do certain things and don’t do others? Who knows his or her true motives?

There are various levels of understanding. What we see and experience is the top level. The background, motives and reasoning for what happens are below the surface and can also be divided into separate levels.

Example:  A child is crying. Why? He is crying because his little brother got something and he didn’t. Envy. What causes envy? This question leads to the next level, a bit deeper. When children don’t feel loved, that is, when they feel disadvantaged. Envy and jealousy are an automatic reaction, a visible effect, which also has a deeper cause.

The next question: What is the deeper cause of this jealousy? As we have discussed in earlier blogs, children don’t feel loved when their love tanks are insufficiently filled. When this situation becomes chronic, patterns in behavior are formed. But there are also reasons why children’s love tanks don’t get filled. Perhaps it is because their mothers’ love tanks are running low and they don’t have the resources with which to fill their children’s needs. So the next question would be: How can one make up for the deficit in one’s own love tank when the cause for this deficit lies in one’s own childhood? Is there a remedy for people who didn’t receive enough love from their parents (even though they may have done their best and might not even be aware of a problem)?

In the past, parents didn’t know anything about the Five Love Languages (BLOG) as it is possible to know today. So it’s no wonder __ . And the questions go on.

The three most important things a person needs to develop a high level of quality of life are all located in the deeper levels of consciousness. Because these levels are so deep, they are the basis for and strongly influence the development of all higher levels.

Sometimes it’s good to take time to think about life and what is actually going on in my own life. Why do I work and play so hard that my health is compromised? How much sense does that make? What is important in life? These are questions we want to consider in this blog.

Let’s begin with

1. Humility

Definition & Effect

Wiki: “The term "humility" comes from the Latin word humilitas, a noun related to the adjective humilis, which may be translated as "humble", but also as "grounded", or "from the earth", since it derives from humus (earth).

The word "humble" may be related to feudal England where the lowest cuts of meat, or 'umbles', that is to say whatever was left over when the upper classes had taken their parts, were provided to the lowest class of citizen. The term 'humble pie,' meaning to exist in a lowly station, may derive from this definition.“

Humble people recognize and freely accept the fact that some things are higher and unreachable for them. They do not consider themselves to be the standard by which all others are measured. They realize they are not gods.

There is a notable difference between an inner attitude of humility as opposed to the outward expression thereof, which could simply be a deceptive façade. Ideally, these two would coincide. However, appearances can be deceiving. A person who appears to be humble could actually be proud inside: the exhibition of humility is a sure indication of pride. On the other hand, a truly humble person may appear proud in the eyes of others.

Because our loving God does not force us to obey, His ability to save humanity is dependent on each individual’s choice, either for humility or pride. Only the path of humility leads to God and His eternal kingdom, thus making it an extremely important virtue for Christians.

In his book, The Art of Loving, Erich Fromm explains humility as an emotional attitude, governed by reason and objectivity, which is needed in order to overcome one’s own selfishness. (See BLOG on Narcissism.)

In German, the word ‘humility’ is closely related to the word ‘courage’. It is the courage to serve others, the courage to be different, the courage to submit to higher, divine principles. It is diametrically opposed to pride.

Humble people cause fewer problems than the proud; they have a natural ability to deal constructively with conflicts. Humility is fertile soil for the development of emotional intelligence (BLOG).

Maybe you have felt it too: a breathtaking panorama in nature gave you a sense of humility. How could such sensational complexity in the macro- and microcosms have developed by chance? What laws had to work together in order to produce such wonders? WOW !! That is leading us to the next topic: TRUTH.

2. Truth

Do you love the truth? There is great benefit in loving truth, but the challenges are also many, not only to discover truth, but also to deal wisely therewith.

Today, in the era of fake news, it is becoming increasingly difficult to differentiate between truth and deception. Advertising is a prime example.

Example: Advertising

The goal of advertising is to create positive feelings in us, which will lead to the purchase of a product. Depth psychology does a fantastic job in this area. It helps businesses to get their products in the hands of the people. This is the basis for our consumer society.

In order not to become a victim of this system, we must have an alert spirit of discernment, and a love for truth. These are tools, which will help us, as far as possible, to recognize realities behind any given subject. As stated, this is not an easy task. It is much easier to go with the flow of culture and place our faith entirely in the system, or at least to accept it well enough to find one’s way through the maze of life with no major controversies.

FAKE NEWS dulls our sensibility to truth. We are used to being lied to. There is almost nothing left on which we can depend. In spite of this sad situation, life goes on. In this way, we don’t realize how this constant barrage of deception lulls us to sleep, and our mental, physical and emotional health is compromised.

Example: Nutrition

In the case of nutrition, we usually don’t get the bill until 15 – 30 years later: heart attack, osteoporosis and/or cancer are often the result of a lack of interest in the truth about healthy nutrition. Many people, for example, still believe the advertising industry’s fairytale that cows’ milk is healthy and that “Every body needs milk!” Huge deception! The only thing cows’ milk is really healthy for is calves. For people however, especially in the quantities generally consumed, it is not good. Check out this LINK on the Causes of Osteoporosis.

Business and Politics

People who want to find out the truth in our postmodern world meet with extreme challenges. Neither the world of business nor that of politics is interested in strengthening our frontal lobes or encouraging deep thoughts and critical thinking. This would cause huge financial losses and uncomfortable political changes.  (FRONTAL LOBE)

The situation is not equally tragic in every nation, but the question remains: Why in many countries is truth systematically thwarted, thereby torpedoing any basic attempts at solving existing problems? The truth can make us free!

Appeal

As long as children are still unspoiled, they love truth. Why shouldn’t we hold on to that trait? Is it because it costs too much? Could it cost us a bit of dignity, money or maybe our reputations? On the other hand, what could we gain if we were to consciously strive for the truth? It could lead to healthier self-esteem, authenticity and credibility, a true sense of brotherhood in society, justice, order and an amazing quality of life.

Every person in his or her own sphere, in favor of truth, seeking real solutions!

Are you in?

3. Love

A Letter from ALBERT Einstein to His Daughter Lieserl

Although there are justifiable doubts that the following letter was actually penned by Einstein, there is still a certain geniality concealed within. I believe it is worth contemplation.

Here are some excerpts from the original letter:

"When I proposed the theory of relativity, very few understood me, and what I will reveal now to transmit to mankind will also collide with the misunderstanding and prejudice in the world.”

“There is an extremely powerful force that, so far, science has not found a formal explanation for. It is a force that includes and governs all others, and is even behind any phenomenon operating in the universe and has not yet been identified by us. This universal force is LOVE.”

“When scientists looked for a unified theory of the universe they forgot the most powerful unseen force.”  

“Love is Light; it enlightens those who give and receive it. Love is gravity, because it makes some people feel attracted to others. Love is power, because it multiplies the best we have, and allows humanity not to be extinguished in their blind selfishness. Love unfolds and reveals. For love we live and die.”

“God is Love”

“This force explains everything and gives meaning to life. This is the variable that we have ignored for too long, maybe because we are afraid of love because it is the only energy in the universe that man has not learned to drive at will.”

“If we want our species to survive, if we are to find meaning in life, if we want to save the world and every sentient being that inhabits it, love is the one and only answer.”

“Perhaps we are not yet ready to make a bomb of love, a device powerful enough to entirely destroy the hate, selfishness and greed that devastate the planet.”

“However, each individual carries within them a small but powerful generator of love whose energy is waiting to be released.” (Every mother knows how their children strive to receive this love and appreciation. They will do anything to get it. - Comment by Ernst)

“When we learn to give and receive this universal energy, dear Lieserl, we will have affirmed that love conquers all, is able to transcend everything and anything, because love is the quintessence of life.

Your father,

Albert Einstein.”

These brilliant thoughts point to a phenomenon, which is largely neglected in the world today. We have no time for the most important ingredient in life – true love. We are unwilling to invest our time and energy in it. Thus, we miss out on the amazing potential that lies therein. This is the one ingredient that would make life truly worth living.

Whoever has taken the opportunity to get to know CHRIST personally, has found the source of TRUE LOVE. It is amazing to see the dimensions that JESUS is showing us human in HIM going to the cross for you and me !!

Dear Reader, will you rise above the average and choose a more abundant life?

LOVE for the sake of LOVE. He who understands and lives this principle will get more out of life. BLOG

Whoever Seeks The Meaning Of Life

_ and never finds it, he/she will in the end miss his own life! Without a real meaning in life, life is like walking on ice - unsafe - and you quickly find yourself sitting in the cold of life.

A reader reports: "Young woman, almost 30 years old, behaves like a child. She is married, basically nothing is wrong with her. She has the most beautiful life, sunshine, enough to eat, a wonderful garden, peace and quiet, no hectic, a lot that others would fight for. But she is completely dissatisfied with herself. Every now and then the environment gets a complete blow from her. Most of the day she sits in front of the computer or TV or plays games. The husband is overwhelmed and no longer knows what else he should do to make her happy. Friends tried to coach her. Nothing helps. What's wrong with her? "

HAVING does not yet make sense of life. It depends on BEING. Who are we ? Where do we come from ? Where are we going ? Where do we want to go ?

Anyone who has a lifestyle that destroys the frontal lobe needs help to get out of it. But to convince such people that they also accept help requires supernatural influence. Appropriate borderline experiences could help.

More and more people are becoming addicted to gambling or building their lives in a virtual world. Unfortunately mostly young people. The frontal lobe (BLOG) drunk, apathetic, passive and lacking in motivation. Do you also know such people?

If we look into our world with the question of the meaning of life - as far as we can grasp it - then you may also notice that postmodern people tend to avoid this question. If you ask it anyway, something like: "I enjoy life as long as it is possible" often comes up.

ENJOY LIFE - is that a sufficient answer for people in the 21st century? We in Europe can actually still enjoy life, while in other countries life often becomes a struggle for survival.

We are privileged. For real ?

When pleasure turns into greed and one loses self-control over it, a great love deficit becomes visible.

What is YOUR meaning in life? What makes sense for YOU to live this life?

Is it the family, the spouse? Is it your career, your car, your bank account, your status, your LUST for life? What would hurt you the most if it were taken away from you? Is it health after all?

It is apparently our values ​​that make our life worth living or not? What are your values? If you ask managers about the most important value in life, you often hear them say "the family", even though many have divorced and any children are spread out as a blended family. How come

We think we have values, but we are wrong. The values ​​have us! Many people are pushed through life and have therefore given up the helm. At least that's how it is typical of postmodern people. Total egoism - WHAT'S IN IT FOR ME - dominates our thinking. Individualism to the point of no longer possible. Add to that narcissism, which, when you look in the mirror, serves up lies that are simply taken over. Or how do you explain the way in which we deal with the problems of our society?

Who does something for the good of others? Who is ready to work for the success of the life or survival of friends and neighbors? That would mean charity.

Ok, there are exceptions. There are people who don't just think of themselves.

How did we earn our quality of life? Where did our wealth take us?

Again, what meaning in life, what values ​​do you have?

Where do our values ​​come from?

Our culture, our country, our society, our family shape our values.

• We learn to obey laws, otherwise there is a fine.

• We learn to study so we can make money to eat and drink and go on vacation.

• We learn how to deal with our fellow human beings, who also have to look after themselves.

• We get to know our family system, which shapes our understanding of humanity and thus defines our society.

• We learn a lot more, but we forget most of it.

Here are some values:

Choose your three most important ones:

WORK MONEY INFLUENCE CAREER PEACE HEALTH FAMILY FAITH LOVE TRUTH FORGIVENESS HELP ENJOYMENT NATURE INTEGRITY FREEDOM HONESTY GENEROSITY HONOR DISCIPLINE STATUS MORAL CHARITY APPEARANCE APPRECIATION JUSTICE POWER CHANGE

Do you still have daily access to nature? Do we protect them or have we already been lost in our technical world?

If people live without vision, goals and future-oriented values, then they are in danger of losing themselves. This can then easily end in addictive behavior, self-destruction and self-abandonment. Too bad. There is so much to do. So many challenges are ahead of us. But we have to want to see them. Better to watch TV, be entertained, enjoy and laze around ... That may be a short-term pleasure. But in the long term, deficits will become apparent that can no longer be easily made up for in old age. Our brain adapts quickly.

It is interesting that even the richest can have serious problems with themselves, constantly running from psychiatrist to psychiatrist to uncover the secret of a meaningful life. At some point, perhaps when the consultant has earned enough, he sends the rich lady or gentleman to the desert, to Africa, to a poor area. As soon as these rich experience the discrepancy and recognize what it means to fight for survival in poverty every day, then it gets under their skin that they, as rich, could do something about it. As soon as they practically do that, their healing process begins.

Really helping is an art. It takes sympathy, sensitivity and foresight.

Doing good to others - that has to do with happiness and health!

It has been known for over a hundred years that doing something good has a positive influence on one's feelings, makes the blood circulation happy and even has positive mental and physical effects. Therefore we are all called:

Love thy neighbor as thyself !

Whatever we mean by love - it takes serious thought to recognize the content of this often misused term - the better we get involved in it, the clearer the personal life mission will appear to us:

Everyone has an environment, the immediate environment, to which they can get involved. The circles can get bigger - from the family to a meaningful project - some call it work that brings real added value to society.

If you get that far, you won't get sick so quickly and you don't have to put off your retirement. Life is too interesting. And if you do feel lonely, then remember that there are people who need YOU, who love YOU, who appreciate YOU, because there is no one who is like YOU and could replace YOU! Nobody.

People need people, they need the right help and attention, actually real love.

Our practical understanding of LOVE makes the difference!

I'm sure there is someone today to give a warming hug.

How Albert Einstein responded to the question of meaning:

What is the meaning of our life, what is the meaning of the life of all living beings in general? To know an answer to this question is to be religious.

According to Mr. Einstein, the question of God is connected with the answer to the question of meaning. Those who want or have to live without a loving God have a harder time finding a really happy answer. With the experience of a loving God, new dimensions, even worlds, open up that make human life really worth living.

Maybe some say AMEN? :-)

Partnership-based connection practiced in every weather of life, isn't that an indication that you have found the meaning of life?

PS. This topic was chosen by a reader. Do you also have a topic of your choice?

Fear of Loss - Do You Know About It?

Fears of loss are usually not recognized as such. Unfortunately. If they were recognized, something could be done about it.

Fear accompanies us through life. It is, so to speak, a gift from 'nature'. What 'nature' gives us is the tool to deal with this fear constructively: experience, reason, self-knowledge and above all love, the opposite of fear.

Love is the right medicine for fear. It drives out fear. Unfortunately, we often don't know love well enough. Those who have access to biblical faith and who have come to know our Creator as a loving Father have a strong advantage in this regard.

There is no argument against real love. It's the most outstanding component of a relationship

What is fear of loss?

The fear of loss is often related to oneself. This can be shown by being afraid __

• not being enough for the partner

• not attractive enough, not interesting and lovable enough

• others would get more than me (jealousy)

• others would deceive or betray or take advantage of me

• in front of other 'competitors', which can lead to control behavior

• Losing my partner, which can make me deny my own interests.

Not every flower can receive the same amount of sunlight

How do fears of loss arise?

Fear of loss can arise due to corresponding experiences of loss. Such experiences can become trauma, the earlier children experience such loss. Such experiences can be:

• Disputes and subsequent separation of parents

• neglect by one or both parents

• Deaths of loved ones, as well as animals

• Insecurity in family relationship structure

The latter should be explained somewhat: children recognize their mother and father at an early age as the source of the satisfaction of security and security. If this source does not work, either due to absence or neglect, this can traumatize the child - it feels rejected and experiences a lack of care, which can later lead to feelings of inferiority and fear of loss up to depression.

When the heart is left in the cold __

Fear of loss and fear of commitment

It is understandable that someone who is afraid of losing a relationship may no longer want to be in a relationship. This risk is then too great. This resulting fear is called attachment fear. It is a frequent companion of the fear of loss. The experience of building trust in people and allowing closeness must first be learned in such a case.

Dealing with fear of loss

Although the experiences made as a child can be very deep, if you are interested in quality of life you should do something about it. It is important that one can recognize this fear as such. If you see this knowledge as a challenge, then therapy or a conscious handling of these fears can help to reduce the level of suffering and to rethink.

In order to deal with fear of loss, it makes sense to deal with any childhood trauma, to improve your own self-image and to work on "letting go", for example with mindfulness exercises. In this way, fear of loss can be overcome and a full life can be lived with less fear and close relationships.

Here are important steps:

Reflection, recognizing connections, coming to terms with the past, processing it positively, that is real gain

1. Recognize fear of loss

As I said. Many do not even know that their bad feelings or difficult behaviors are due to fear of loss. Excessive clinging to caregivers, mistrust, jealousy and the need to control point to this fact. But the opposite can also be the case: a fear of attachment can lead to distancing, hostility and aloofness. 'Self-knowledge is the best way to get better!'

2. Find the causes

It takes courage and determination to find the reasons. You either look for it alone or with the help of psychotherapy. The journey to childhood or later experiences is exciting. It is about as an adult to reassess the experiences made and to get on the track of the actual circumstances, the 'truth'. Because truth always makes you free!

3. Redefine your own identity

Self-esteem

Fear of loss is usually associated with, or is caused by, very poor self-esteem. If important caregivers fail, the feeling of worthlessness, of being unloved and not being welcomed quickly creeps in. The resulting deep self-worth should be reworked and defined. More on that later.

Recognizing yourself as unique, as unique, with talents and gifts, appreciating and accepting your own decision-making power and humanity with limits and potential, that is what defines self-worth.

Accept boundaries and allow good things

Overworking and being taken advantage of is not an acceptable option. Deliberately take time out to do what is good for you - it can be a regular evening with a bath, a good book, something delicious to eat, an exciting hobby or workshop or later maybe even a wellness weekend or Vacation. The experience of relaxation and successful self-awareness promotes healing. He who can love himself can also love his partner.

4. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones

Bad thoughts about yourself, about others, about the past and the future, weaken self-worth. These negative thoughts should be interrupted and replaced with positive, grateful and kind ones. The search for positive thoughts can be supported with valuable literature, Bible reading, prayer and dealing with positive people.

What I personally appreciate very much is working through my collection of Bible verses and quotes from wise people that are important to me every morning and evening (mostly in bed) piece by piece. That gives me a positive boost every time.

After the analysis, the decision to change follows, step by step towards a better life situation

5. Decision on continuous improvement

Train by train ... it is a path that takes strength and determination. If you decide to work on this topic and move on, strive for balance, then I would add: don't give up. Trust someone who can help you along the way and who wants to support you in a positive way.