Every couple has their own way of communicating. With inner feelings of guilt, this looks very different. If there are still children in the house, then feelings of guilt can spread in many ways.
5 Tips Against Feelings Of Guilt
Anyone who has children and a career knows it only too well: giving everything at work AND at home is simply not possible in terms of time and energy. It is understandable that this will give rise to a bad conscience. How to deal with it?
1. Good Focus
Do what you are doing with all your heart. It does no one any good if you think about your children with a bad conscience while working in the office. Separate the two worlds and commit yourself primarily to the family. Income is also important, but family is our greatest asset.
2. Perfectionism bothers
Perfectionism is a pursuit of success motivated by fear. This is far from true love. Of course we want to do our best, but the idea that this should happen without mistakes and flaws is destructive. Our goal is quality, not perfectionism!
Everything doesn't have to be perfect. No. But making the best of what you have is a gift in itself.
3. Review Values
With the following question we can check our balance between work and education:
What is really important to me in my life?
Take the time to find 10-15 points that answer that. Which three points are the most important to you? Now how can these three values be realized more optimally in your family? Where do limits have to be observed and where can more quality be introduced?
4. Where Might My Guilt Come From?
That is a difficult question. Who likes to go back to their childhood to look for reasons there. THE TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE ! Those who make this effort will be rewarded.
Most of our feelings of guilt and shame arose in our childhood. There we learned them unconsciously. These experiences have led to beliefs in us, which are usually not all balanced. “I'm not a good mother/father ! I'm inferior and irresponsible!"
If such thoughts come up, then a consultation, a coaching would be a great advantage. There the truth could then be separated from the lie.
Everybody makes mistakes. Certain parenting mistakes tend to accompany us into adult life. Becoming aware of and analyzing them can be an important step in managing and breaking free from them.
5. Accept Your Personality
Take a look in your mirror and say to yourself:
“My name is … and my family is important to me. For my spouse I want to give what can promote our partnership and for my family I want to take responsibility and work constructively. This includes good boundaries and careful listening and communicating. Of course I also have my own limits. I stand by them as long as they don't destroy the family. My family is the most important thing to me.”
For believers, here is the best offer : prayer. You can pick up new strength, courage and good words from HIM. Unique who accepts this gift.
