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Break the Cycle of Toxic Thinking
As a reminder: as soon as a thought is conscious, it can work down to the level of the genes. During a conscious thought process, thoughts become unstable and directed in a positive or negative direction. They always change. Even if the content of a thought does not change, it will still be overwritten. New proteins solidify the thought. The thoughts either get better or worse, no one remains neutral.
Hope you have been able to check out the previous blogs on the subject. If not, here they are:
TOX1 (Introduction) TOX2 (Stress) TOX3 (Brain) TOX4 (Conversion)
1. Dealing with Toxic Thoughts
Thoughts can make us sick or well. It is always beneficial to analyze your own thoughts so that pride, anger, rebellion, self-pity, and ingratitude can be identified. It can also be used to record addictions: gambling addiction, critical addiction, food addiction or porn addiction.
Supporting analytical questions:
Do your thoughts often revolve around entertainment, films; are they a little messy?
Are there thoughts that arise often and are stressful?
Would it be an advantage to write them down, structure them and possibly draw a mind map?
Reflect on this and ask yourself if there is some real guilt in it that requires forgiveness? Compare thoughts with your principles and values. Are there any discrepancies? What would a solution look like? How would real love show in it?
What can be done to replace the negative with something positive? How would that look in practice?
While toadstools look beautiful, it doesn't hide the fact that eating them means destruction. It is not so easy to see from the front for every toxic thought or feeling.
2. Dealing with toxic emotions
Sure, emotions and thoughts cannot be separated. Psychosomatics shows that feelings have a strong influence. They shouldn't be suppressed, repressed or even denied. As a basic concept, there are only two directions of feeling: love or fear.
Love :
It includes emotions such as joy, peace, trust, care, contentment, patience, kindness, gentleness, humility.
Fear :
It includes emotions such as anger, hate, anger, fear, guilt, shame, aloofness, depression, disorientation, pride.
While the love-related emotions have a positive effect on the organism, the others cause the body to defend itself, to go into protection.
The body is attuned to behavioral goals through emotions. This process is important because it is how our traits, talents and abilities are formed.
Those who do not learn to deal with toxic emotions will one day be billed for it.
Further analytical questions:
Which values, attitudes and beliefs mostly influence your decisions?
Are happy or painful memories recognizable? How could these feelings be described?
By writing down many things become conscious and can thus be viewed from a distance.
Do you notice that areas may still be suppressed? Are frustrations hidden that could somehow have an impact?
Being able to express emotions is high school. We all have to learn that. The feelings are easier to reveal to a friend when you can stand by them yourself.
The more someone has lived in toxic feelings, the more challenging the exit. Small steps without giving up, steadily forward, will lead to liberation. With strong-willed natures, things can sometimes go a lot faster. Someone who promotes their frontal lobe becomes strong-willed (NEWSTART PLUS).
3. Dealing with bad words
Words are important and powerful, but also dangerous because they can be tremendously destructive. They reflect our inner attitude and values, our temperament and our character. Those who are used to controlling thoughts can also tend to choose their words.
People of integrity speak what they are convinced of. The words of the wise are valued. A fool can be recognized by his words. Redundant, useless, and irrelevant words indicate a dull, insignificant background. Words are like seeds sown. What will happen to it What is the harvest like?
Depending on our temperament, we tend to exaggerate, too many and often interesting words (sanguine), or too few but well-thought-out expressions (melancholics), or too violent, directive instructions (cholerics) or soothing, balanced, take-it- easy words (phlegmatic).
Word choice questions
Which topics do you quickly convert into words, mostly without any control?
Are these topics positively proven? What makes the choice of words wise and unwise? Is the harvest looking good?
Can my words from today or yesterday be represented graphically? The constructive on the one hand, the problematic on the other? Are you keeping yourself in balance? Which predominate? What are the motives behind it?
How could the negative words be replaced by positive ones? How would that sound? Which attitude would make it easier for me to communicate better?
How about the resolution from now on to pay attention to the attitude, especially in difficult situations, to revise it and only then to make the choice of words? Remember that no master has fallen from heaven yet.
Using good words properly is a gift that can be developed. Life gains flavor, heat and quality. You live like in a better world.
4. Optimize decisions
Every decision has consequences. Thanks to our decision-making ability, we can also decide about our thoughts, feelings and words - as we want and are trained.
To what extent are we ready to take responsibility for our day-to-day decisions? The choice of work, spouse, vacation spot, friends are long-term decisions. Many circumstances such as culture, family, language and time of life are not our choice; they are decided by others (for us). This also requires a decision from us to deal with it as best as possible.
One of the most profound decisions is arguably life or death. We are confronted with it every day. With every meal we decide - whether consciously or unconsciously - for a long-term healthy life or not.
Our values and experiences help in our decisions. A lot happens automatically. Some speak of gut instinct. Choosing a life partner based on gut instinct would not be enough for me. Feelings can be deceptive if they are not analyzed and made transparent.
To what extent does the interest in truth and honesty play a role in our decisions? The way the media is used, fashion trends, neighborhood envy, relationship difficulties, etc., all of them influence our decisions, sometimes violently.
With the decisions we have made, we have switched on or off our genes, which are responsible for our behavior and emotions. In this way, our free will decisions help our memory formation.
Questions to think about
Which attitudes and habits have significantly influenced my decisions so far?
Are there any values and habits that need to be adjusted?
Can you explain the observations made to someone you trust?
Are there decision-making patterns that have always been positive? Why ? Negatives?
Better quality of life can be achieved through more conscious decision-making processes. How do you intend to use this in the future?
Anyone who rushes through life with a GPS or a map has a big advantage. But if he does not know the goal, he too is lost. Keeping the goal in mind helps to make the right decisions.
5. Recognize and forgive misconduct
What lives changes. Those who work a lot make more mistakes. Mistakes are part of our life. How do we deal with that ? How do we deal with mistakes made by other people? Can we forgive them Can you forgive yourself?
Forgiveness is a choice. With this, we can get rid of all the toxic thoughts of anger, resentment, shame, sadness, and bitterness. We can also part with guilt and hatred. Many people are misguided by these emotions. Too bad.
There are more than a hundred studies that demonstrate the healing power of forgiveness. If we do not forgive, the thoughts of the painful event will create fear in the amygdala brain region, leading to the release of stress hormones and increasing blood pressure. This condition can persist and lead to mental and physical illness.
Forgiveness instead of revenge pays off. With feelings of revenge you harm yourself the most.
Forgiveness begins with repentance. It also allows one to really love. Unconditional (see blog). We cannot change the past, but we can understand it better; knowing the truth from it will set us free. Free for good decisions. Free for forgiveness.
When we forgive, we are not apologizing for the behavior of the 'offender'. Instead of 'judging' this, which would amount to too great a responsibility, we hand it over to God's fate. HE is the judge and has relieved us of it.
Questions that aid the process of forgiveness
Are there any injuries or suffering that have been inflicted on you that have not yet been processed?
What's stopping you from starting the forgiveness process?
What speaks in these cases PRO, what CONTRA forgiveness?
What might the situation look like after forgiveness has happened?
What steps can you take now to restore these relationships to health?
A real SORRY can bring hearts back together. It binds wounds and makes peeling paint seem unimportant. The main thing is that love is right.
. Here is the link:
Forgiveness-Seminar
PS. Reference book: "Who turned my brain off" by Dr. Caroline Leaf
