Claim: We can choose the victor- or victim-mentality as our own.
Example: An alcoholic has twins. One of them falls into the same lifestyle as his father: when asked why he lives that way, he blames his father. The other twin decides to live his life completely abstinent: when asked to explain his choice of lifestyle, again his father gets the credit.
The same circumstances – different results – different directions! What direction are YOU heading?
Our daily life automatically puts us in situations that require decisions. Many of those decisions reveal a tendency in us to take the roll of a victim or that of a victor.
Challenges are to be expected
What situations in our daily lives challenge us to such decisions? Certainly in our relationships!
- Do you always do what your partner wants? Or can you be creative in the relationship?
- How do you seek recognition? How does your emotional tank get filled?
- Is your mind geared towards positive communication, or have you made a habit of competing for attention with negative headlines?
- Am I happy in the roll of a victim because of the extra attention from my spouse or others?
- Am I strong enough and willing to stand up against sizable difficulties and not just submit to an apparent stroke of fate?
- When was the last time I stood up for justice, truth or limits in a situation where, if I hadn’t done it, some kind of damage may have resulted?
- Am I tend the type that tends to sidestep obstacles; or am I sometimes willing to live out my honest opinion, even when doing so could produce certain drawbacks?
Decisions form our lives
The point here is that
- many people have subconsciously eased themselves into the roll of a victim, and that
- we do NOT have to live that roll; instead, we can decide to take the roll of a victor.
Maybe you know someone who is a roll model for a mature lifestyle, someone who knows who they are and where they are going. Maybe YOU are a good example in that respect!
That requires a certain amount of mental effort, reflection and self-respect. As soon as we are faced with the circumstances, all we need is a good decision. Healthy people can make healthy decisions. May each new day find you heading more and more in that direction. That is my heart’s desire for you! - See you next Wednesday!
