Many mothers do a great job protecting their children from harm. It's good if we all know what dangers await our children, present and future.
How can we properly protect our children?
For some parents, it can be a slap in the face, or the children are beaten, given a cold shower, or experience other physical punishment.
Before Corona, a trend was noticed that education was becoming increasingly non-violent. That has now apparently changed again. And this despite the fact that in many countries children have a right to protection. We as parents and grandparents must do everything we can to ensure that non-violent parenting becomes NORMAL again.
Children love stories. Here we can teach them important values and demonstrate social skills in an exemplary manner.
How does violence occur?
Violence occurs primarily in stressful situations, where parents lose control for a fraction of a second and then insult or even hit the child violently. The parents usually regret their reaction later, unfortunately usually without apologizing to the child.
Few parents think that education doesn't work without violence.
To educate is to pull.
Where are we moving to as parents or grandparents?
Probably in our own direction, towards ourselves.
The child automatically adopts the parenting system and basic values of the parents. Mature parents are aware of this and also try to convey additional values through conversations and devotions.
Sometimes you hear that a slap in the face has never hurt a child. This normalizes and justifies violence in education. For many, non-violent parenting is a greater challenge. But those who get used to it usually win. For example, he/she learns to briefly leave the room in stressful situations before things escalate. This helps to respond better and teaches the child to use this type of conflict resolution themselves.
A child who experiences violence at home will have difficulty concentrating at school and will therefore be less able to benefit from their education.
Children who grow up with a lot of experienced fear will owe this to products of fear such as aggression and selfishness. It is real love that casts out fears. This is the parents' chance to treat their child with love, not to pamper them, but to encourage them, challenge them and provide them with loving advice through all life circumstances.
Opposite of violence > pampering
The opposite of violence is towards PAMPERING. This is another dead end where the child is poorly prepared for his or her future.
There are more and more parents who feel comfortable buying their child a CELL PHONE. You realize that this gift means a lot to the child because everyone else at school has already received one. Parents usually don't notice how their child is becoming more and more addicted to the Internet and the quality of their interpersonal relationships is slowly declining. The ability to concentrate also decreases and so does school performance. In addition, the risk of addiction is also developing in the areas of films and video games.
For many young people, life without a cell phone feels gray and dull. The tension is missing. Boredom sets in. It is important for parents to find a good replacement so that the young people feel wanted and supported. Sports and scouting activities, making music with instruments (flute, guitar, piano, violin), this gives the soon-to-be adults self-esteem and usefulness.
If the parents do not become more involved and are careful to introduce good parenting values, communicate sufficiently with the children and take part in their leisure activities, then it can lead to greater social damage that will have a bearing on the children's future .
The protection of minors still needs to be greatly improved when it comes to films and videos!
Parents like it when their children are busy doing something. This is happening more and more often with a cell phone. Children love this ‘toy’. And the parents finally have the rest they deserve. But the children are punished in the long term. Unfortunately, you will experience a lot of social disadvantages, which will often make life overwhelming for you later on.
