Good relationships with a high quality of life are characterized by friendship, teamwork and positive conversations.
Viewpoints
The perpetrator's words:
"A man must dominate the relationship."
“The ladies want it that way, so they stay true to it.”
"The girl has the responsibility and the blame if a man hits her."
"When you get angry, there's nothing you can do about it."
“Beating them is necessary. Hopefully she learns from this and doesn't make me mad next time."
The victim says:
"I'm the only one who can help him. I love him."
"It's my fault; I shouldn't have nagged."
"It's my fault he got angry."
"If I don't change, he won't change either."
"It will get better."
"He's so manly and strong. I like his lifestyle. Okay, sometimes he hurts me without apologizing. But I still forgive him. Disputes have increased recently. Hope that will settle down."
QUESTIONS for the perpetrator:
Are you easily jealous or possessive?
Do you keep checking on your partner and accusing him/her of being in contact with others?
Have you hit, kicked, pushed, or thrown objects at your partner?
Have you recently threatened your partner or thrown things at them on purpose?
Have you forced your partner to have sex with you intimidated him/her into afraid to say "no"?
Have you threatened your partner to hurt him/her?
Have you ever threatened to hurt yourself if your partner left you?
If one or more of these questions apply to your situation, please recognize that you are physically, emotionally, or sexually violent towards your partner.
In this case:
take responsibility for your behavior.
you shouldn't put the blame on others, but own up to it.
take advice so you can change your behavior.
contact a good counseling center.
you should act quickly and not wait, otherwise it will get worse.
Such abusive behavior can get you in trouble with the law!
"It's been a long time since we went for a walk together. About time again! How about tonight?"
